Anal Intercourse
Once a woman is accustomed to anal stimulation, and you are aware of when her anus is relaxed, and not tensed, you can start exploring anal penetration. The anus and rectum are very delicate so be sure to only insert smooth objects that do not have any sharp edges. Trim your fingernails. Wearing rubber or latex gloves will make your finger(s) easier to insert. Massage the anal ring and wait for it to relax and open up. Once it has, start pressing the tip of a single finger slightly into the anus. If you feel it tighten, stop, withdrawal your finger, and resume the anal massage for a couple of minutes. When her anus has relaxed again, slowly insert your fingertip again. Go slow and do not try to insert your entire finger in the beginning. In fact, only a small portion of your finger may enter before the anus tightens. If you go to fast, she may experience considerable discomfort, ruining the moment and possibly ending your exploration of anal sex. She can also learn to sense when her anus is tensed, and learn to relax it. Doing Kegel exercises while a partner's finger is inserted will help a woman learn how to do this. This will come in handy later when larger objects are inserted.
In the beginning you just want to insert your finger without moving it
around. You want to condition her to the feeling of something being in her anus.
She will likely enjoy the feeling of something being in her anus when she
experiences orgasm. Once she is comfortable with being dilated, slowly start to
move your finger in and out, and around. Gently stretch her anus by pushing
outward on her anal ring. Once a woman has learned to enjoy the insertion of a
single finger, start inserting a second. Always go slow and be sure she remains
relaxed.
Once you are able to insert two fingers, you may want to acquire a couple "butt
plugs" to help condition her to further dilation. Butt plugs are tapered dildos
with a flared base. The taper allows you to slowly dilate the anus. The flared
base prevents it from accidentally slipping all the way up into the rectum. You
should never insert anything into the anus that does not have a flared base, as
the rectum can draw objects in, and it can be difficult to get them out.
Requiring an embarrassing trip to the doctor. Butt plugs come in many sizes,
from the size of a slender finger, to the size of large fist. For the majority
of people, a small and medium butt sized plug, 0.5 to 1.5 inches across, will do
the job. For women who like the intense feeling of large objects being inserted,
the sky is the limit. Silicone dildos are the best choice as they are smooth,
flexible, and easy to clean. They are more expensive, but will serve you far
better in the long run. It is also a good idea to put a condom on the butt plug,
or dildo; it will make clean up easier, and protect non-silicone toys.
To use a butt plug, massage and slowly dilate her anus with your finger(s) first. Once you are able to insert one or two fingers comfortably, place the small butt plug at her anal opening, then with a single finger, slowly press it in a little ways. Then allow her anus to push the butt plug back out. Then press it back in again. Using only a single finger to press in on the plug to help prevent you from using too much force. Very slowly repeat this process, inserting the butt plug a little further each time, if her anus permits it. Try to caress her clitoris while doing this. With patience the butt plug should slip all the way in and stay in place, due to its slender base. The smaller butt plugs may not stay in as well as larger ones, because their base is almost as big around as the largest part of the tapered section. Once the plug is in, leave it alone and make love to her. Perform cunnilingus and have vaginal intercourse if she so desires. More importantly, bring her to orgasm. Allow her to enjoy the feeling of something being in her anus during orgasm. After a couple sessions you can start to work the butt plug in and out, stimulating her anus. If she is comfortable with the butt plug being inserted, allow it to remain so for fifteen to twenty minutes to help condition her anus to dilation, after you are done making love. Many women may enjoy the feeling of the butt plug when it is inserted. It is okay to leave it in for longer periods of time if she is comfortable doing so. Once you are done, slowly slip the butt plug out, and wash and dry it in preparation for the next time. Once she learns to enjoy the small butt plug, switch over to the medium sized one; you may need to use the small one in preparation for the medium one during the same session. Go slow and have fun. Do not be goal orientated.
In preparation for anal intercourse you will probably want to buy a dildo
that is equal in size to your penis, if you are male; lesbians can choose any
sized dildo for their harness. Using a dildo will provide you with more control
over the amount of pressure applied to the anus during insertion, and greater
control over your own movements. Get one with a flared base so it cannot slip
all the way in. Again silicone dildos are more expensive but a better buy.
Slowly stretch her anus with fingers and butt plugs first, then slowly and
gently insert the dildo. At first, just let her get use to the dilation. It does
not have a small base, so her anus will be fully dilated all the time. This may
be very intense for her. Allow her time to adjust to the greater constant
dilation. When she is relaxed, slowly move the dildo in and out. Go very slow at
first. Allow her to guide your movements. As always, be sure to bring her to
orgasm.
By the time you consider anal intercourse, she should be so accustomed to anal
penetration that she has no apprehensions at all. There should be no fear of
hurting her. She needs to welcome the idea of your penis entering her anus.
Prepare her anus with your fingers and butt plugs first. Go slow. Schedule an
entire evening or day for this special occasion. During the insertion of your
penis, she must be in control of how far your penis enters her, and the
movements of your bodies. So she needs to be on top, or on her hands and knees.
She needs to lower herself down onto or push herself back onto your penis. She
must open and receptive to your penis, versus you pushing your penis in. Once
the head of your penis is in, she should stop and relax for a couple minutes, to
get use to the dilation; and feel your body heat. When she feels comfortable,
she can take in the remainder of your penis, once again she needs to stop and
relax. When she is comfortable, she can either remain still, or start moving
slowly back and forth or up and down. Go slow, the sensations can be very
intense. It helps if while doing all of this if one of you massages her clitoris
and/or breasts. Bring her to orgasm prior to penetration to help her relax, and
be more receptive. Once you are in, bring her to another orgasm.
Clitoral Massage
Clitoral massage is an excellent skill to have at your disposal when making
love to a woman. While most couples probably engage in a little diddling of the
vulva and clitoris prior to intercourse, few would consider making it the main
course. If you really want to impress your female partner, consider making her
the center of attention by giving her a clitoral massage.
Clitoral massage can be employed by couples with temporary and permanent
physical disabilities. Pregnant women may experience an increased desire for sex
and orgasm but find themselves unable to engage in vaginal intercourse. Partners
with paralyses may not be able to perform the physical motions required of
intercourse. Men who are impotent may still desire to give their partner sexual
pleasure and orgasm. It is important to realize that sex can exist in the
absence of an erection and intercourse.
The first requirement of clitoral massage is knowing where your partner's clitoris is, what it looks like and what it feels like when flaccid and erect. The only way to learn these things is to go exploring. With the lights on, have your partner undress, she may want to wear a comfortable shirt. She should then lay on a bed, sit in a chair, or sit on the bed while sitting up against some pillows placed against the headboard. Make sure that you have easy access to her vulva, but also that she is comfortable. Sit or kneel so you are facing her, usually off to one side. If she is sitting in a chair or at the end of the bed, you may want to sit in a chair or kneel on the floor. You can also have her sit in your lap, both of you facing the same direction. You need to get close to the subject at hand. You may also want to have a light close by, or a flashlight, to illuminate her vulva so as to be able to see everything clearly. You will also want to have a small hand held or free standing mirror available so your partner can see her vulva and clitoris, and what you are doing.
Start by examining her vulva as it looks normally, with her outer labia at
rest. Gently examine everything with your fingers. Caress versus poke. Notice
the softness of her skin and pubic hair. If your partner has a lot of pubic
hair, you may want to trim it some with scissors. There is no need to shave the
pubic area. Then gently spread the outer labia with your fingers, examine what
lies within. Identify her inner labia, her clitoris, and her urinary and vaginal
orifices. She can also assist by holding her outer labia open with one or both
hands.
If you can't identify her clitoris, ask her if she knows where it is, and to
point it out to you. Because of the vast variations in genital structure, some
individual structures may not be immediately identifiable. Some women may not
have inner labia, or only one. A well developed clitoris will be easy to see,
but some clitorises are so small and hidden that a woman may only know where it
is by knowing where it is most sensitive to her touch, where she rubs while
masturbating.
Once you locate her clitoris, try to identify all it's different parts:
shaft\body, glans, and hood\prepuce. Depending on the size and tightness of her
hood you may not be able to retract it far enough to expose the clitoral glans.
If this is the case, you may be able to feel it under her hood. If her glans is
small, you may only be able to detect the shaft of her clitoris when she is
erect but not the glans itself. Some shafts are very thin and hard to detect. In
this case you may only be able to identify it when you feel it become erect
between your finger tips. She may be able to tell you when you have grasped her
clitoral glans in your finger tips if you are not able to feel it. Be very
gentle when examining her clitoris. Many are extremely sensitive.
The next step for beginners, or as a warm-up for the experienced, is for your
partner to masturbate to orgasm. She should go slowly at first, demonstrating
her different strokes, pressure applied, and frequency of her strokes. This is
so you can get an understanding for what she likes and is most responsive to. It
will take a lot of practice and repeated masturbation sessions for you to become
as good at masturbating her as she is, and you still may never become quite as
good at it as she is. Her masturbating to orgasm before you begin the massage
helps to put her in the mood and makes her more responsive to additional sexual
stimulation. Some women find their genitals very sensitive right after orgasm,
so you may need to gently massage other areas of her body, breasts and thighs,
for several minutes before you begin the clitoral massage. Some women are only
able to have one orgasm in the beginning, so go slow and just try to make her
feel good if you discover this is true for your partner. If your partner is
reluctant to masturbate in your presence, this is perfectly okay, it isn't a
requirement. Suggest it, but don't place any pressure on her to do it.
To the women reading this, please be assured that masturbating in front of your partner is perfectly normal, a lot of women do it. Masturbation isn't just a solo act. Women are very beautiful when they masturbate and share their orgasms with their partner. You can't do it wrong or make a fool out of yourself. You wont loose any of the intimacy you experience when you masturbate alone. I think most people know their partner masturbates, so you aren't going to shock them by admitting to it, they most likely masturbate to. If you maintain eye contact with your partner while masturbating I think you will be blown away by the experience.
You know where her clitoris is, so now what you ask? Well, first I must mention clitoral sensitivity and the possible need for additional lubrication. The sensitivity of women's clitorises vary greatly from woman to woman. Some women experience pain if their clitoris is touched directly, others don't find their clitoris sensitive to touch at all. Some may require a very light touch in the beginning but need a firmer touch the closer they are to reaching orgasm. So it is best to start out with a very light touch, then slowly increase the amount of pressure as you see her become more aroused. Watch her body movements and listen to the noises she makes to see if you are applying to much pressure or not enough. Be careful, you almost never want to squeeze the clitoris tightly, perhaps firmly, but almost never aggressively. A few women may enjoy a firm squeeze at the point of orgasm, but talk to her about this before actually trying it. She will either see stars, or smack you across the head.
Depending on the sensitivity of your partner's clitoris and the amount of
natural lubrication, you may need to apply additional lubrication before
beginning the massage. Try it without at first, but if she pulls away or reports
she is too sensitive, or feels nothing, apply a generous coating of lubrication
to her entire vulva. Use only water based lubricants like K-Y Jelly. (Use of
petroleum based lubricants can result in infection.) When you first try clitoral
massage have lubrication on hand just in case. You will almost never want to
touch her clitoral glans directly without your finger(s) being lubricated, but
this may not be a part of the massage in any event. You may also want to
consider wearing latex or rubber gloves. These will make your fingers very
slick, which will come in handy if your partner's clitoris is extremely
sensitive, or if you have rough skin on your fingers. They also come in handy if
you insert your finger(s) into her vagina during the massage, fingernails can
scratch the vaginal walls. Most pharmacies carry rubber and latex gloves and are
an over the counter item.
A note about giving a massage, clitoral or otherwise. Always maintain physical
contact with the person receiving the massage once you begin. It is very
disruptive of the physical bond that develops if you take both hands off her
body at the same time, and placing them back can be somewhat of a shock. With
practice you may become aware of the sexual energy that flows between you and
your partner. Sounds strange, but it is true. Have everything you need within
reach of your free hand. It is also a good idea to touch her knee, then slide
your hand up to her inner thigh, then finally her up to her vulva, so as not to
penetrate her personal space to quickly. Placing your cold hand directly on her
vulva may be a shock and ruin the mood.Warm any lubricant you may use prior to
applying it to her vulva.
You will be massaging her clitoris using 1, 2, or 3 fingers. The size and prominence of her clitoris will determine how many fingers you use. If you are able to locate and feel her clitoral shaft with your fingers, you will use your thumb and index finger. If she has a well developed clitoris you may want to use your thumb, your index finger, and the finger next to that. If you can't grasp the shaft and glans of her clitoris because it is small or hidden, you will use just the tip of your index finger.
If you can grasp her clitoris with two or three fingers you will want to do the following. Very gently grasp the shaft of her clitoris with your thumb and index finger. Gently slide the loose tissue covering her clitoris around, primarily back and forth, getting a feel for the shape and firmness of her clitoris. Determine how much the tissue along her shaft slides around. You don't want to grasp the glans at first if possible, if her clitoris is small you wont be able to avoid it. As you slide your fingers back and forth along her shaft, the hood should also be sliding back and forth, stimulating her glans. Go slow, watch your partner for indications as to whether she is enjoying what you are doing. Try to maintain eye contact with her if possible, or as much as possible. If you can't tell by body language, then ask her if what you are doing feels good. Ask her whether you should be going slower or faster, or applying a firmer or lighter touch. If she doesn't know, just experiment.
If you can't grasp her clitoris, you will want to place the tip of your index finger on top of her clitoral body or hood. Experimentation will indicate which is most sensitive. You will want to gently move the tissue under your finger around in small circles, or back and forth to stimulate her clitoris. Hopefully you will feel the firm structures of her clitoris under your finger tip, when she is aroused and erect, even if her clitoris is really small and hidden.
Continue to stroke her clitoris. If she is enjoying what you are doing just
continue to do it. As she becomes more and more aroused you may want to slowly
and gently increase the amount of pressure you are applying, but always be
gentle. The speed of your strokes can vary to, very slow in the beginning, then
possibly faster as she nears orgasm. Your fingers should always be grasping the
loose skin covering the body of her clitoris, causing it to slide back and forth
along the shaft. Continue until she reaches orgasm. As soon as she has an orgasm
switch to a very very light stroke, as her clitoris is likely to be very
sensitive. After a couple minutes you can begin again or stop. Never stop the
massage abruptly unless she reports she is to sensitive to touch, in which case
caress her vulva or inner labia for few minutes. The idea being to maintain
physical contact as she comes down from her orgasm.
She may experience orgasm quickly and easily, but this may not always be the
case. It does take practice and time for you both the get comfortable with this
technique. You will want to limit the massage periods to 15-20 minutes if she
doesn't experience orgasm initially. Make her feel good, but don't irritate her
clitoris or strain yourself. You both need to be relaxed. If your partner is
really enjoying herself but doesn't experience orgasm within 15-20 minutes, you
can continue the massage for another 10-25 minutes, as long as you are both
comfortable with it. Be careful not to make this a tedious act, if either of you
becomes uncomfortable or frustrated it will ruin the moment and the sexual bond
necessary for it to be a pleasant experience for both of you. If she doesn't
experience orgasm and is very aroused, switch to a sexual activity that you know
will result in orgasm. If she is only able experience orgasm while masturbating,
allow her to do this, even if you must leave the room. If she is happy to just
cuddle, that is okay too.
During the massage it may be necessary for the woman to be fantasizing about something sexual. It may be best if she doesn't think about the massage itself. If she does find that she needs to fantasize, she should try to have the same fantasy she has while masturbating alone. She will probably need to close her eyes for this as her partner's presence may distract her. This will be easier to do if the massage feels pleasurable, if not she should provide guidance until her partner discovers a technique that works for her.
Depending on the sensitivity of her clitoral glans you may want to stimulate it directly, or indirectly through the hood. If her hood covers her glans, you can gently grasp the glans through her hood with your thumb and index finger. Some women have a clitoral glans that is always fully or partial exposed. Depending on it's sensitivity, you may be able to apply the tip of your finger directly to the glans, sliding it across the surface, using a very light touch and lots of lubrication. If a woman's hood doesn't cover her glans, massaging the body of her clitoris by grasping the loose tissue there may not provide sufficient stimulation to the glans, in this case try direct stimulation. Some women can't retract their hood to expose the glans, but if you place your finger at the opening to her hood and massage her clitoral glans, she may experience greater stimulation.
You can give a vaginal massage while you are giving a clitoral massage. While one hand stimulates her clitoris, the other can be used to stimulate her vagina. By inserting your finger into her vagina, and stimulating the top of her vaginal wall, pointing your finger toward her pubic bone, you can stimulate her G-spot, urethral sponge. The finger movement for G-Spot stimulation is the same as that when indicating to a person across the room that you want them to come to you, the palm of your hand facing up, creating a hook with your index finger. This can produce very strong orgasms and pronounced ejaculations of fluid from the urethra. You can explore the vagina and locate areas that are sensitive to digital stimulation, or she may simply enjoy the feeling of something being in her vagina, not moving at all, or slowly. You can insert more than one finger depending on her flexibility and desire to be filled. You can also insert your entire hand into her vagina, fisting, which can result in a very strong sexual response from her. This is much easier for female couples as they usually have small hands. Fisting is an advanced skill that takes a lot of practice and sensitivity.
You can also incorporate anal massage. Initially this would entail massaging
the outside of the anus, no penetration. Some women are more responsive to anal
massage than vaginal massage, or they find the combination to be very intense
and enjoyable. After massaging her anus for several minutes you can insert the
tip of one finger, moving it slowly in and out. After her anus relaxes you can
insert your entire finger, then more fingers if she so desires. A finger used to
stimulate her anus should never be used to stimulate her vulva and vagina
afterwards because of bacteria present in her rectum. The use of rubber or latex
gloves will allow you to switch back and forth, as long as you change the glove
before switching from anus to vulva.
A good way to start off a clitoral massage is by giving a full body massage.
This will help stimulate and awaken the nerves of the body and help both
partners relax. Use only a light gliding touch for this type of massage. Press
down lightly with the flat of your hand, your fingers molding to the shape of
her body. Never squeeze, something most people do while giving a massage. If you
find an area of tightness, apply a light pressure while moving your hand(s) in a
circular or back and forth motion. You want to slowly and gently dissipate the
tightness, but don't spend a lot of time trying to release the tightness during
an erotic massage. Start on the back of the body, at the head, and work your way
towards her feet, have her roll over and do her front, from her feet up, never
breaking the physical contact. Don't massage her breast or genitals until the
very end. After massaging her head, facial muscles, work your way down to her
vulva, stopping at her breasts and nipples along the way. Then begin the
clitoral massage. For the massage turn the heat up and play some soft relaxing
music. If she should fall asleep this indicates she is tired and needs to
recharge. Let her take a nap or sleep through the night. If this occurs on a
Friday or Saturday night, continue the massage in the morning.
What I have presented here are basic guidelines to help a couple get started
with clitoral massage. The intent of clitoral massage is to make her clitoris
the center of attention. Since her clitoris is most likely her primary sexual
organ, besides her mind, she is likely to find this sexual act very conducive to
sexual pleasure and orgasm. Since women's bodies and mental makeup vary greatly
it is impossible for me to explain "how-to" for every couple. The only sure way
for couples to figure out how to give and receive a clitoral massage is through
open minds and practice. I have had women respond very favorably to this massage
technique within a few minutes, but this may not be the case for all. Practice
makes perfect.
How to Eat Pussy
Hey, I have a lot of respect for all you guys who like to eat pussy because there are too few of you out there. And I'm not the only woman who says this. Furthermore, some of you guys who are giving it the old college try are not doing too well, so maybe this little lesson will help you out. When a woman finds a man who gives good head, she's found a treasure she's not going to let go of too quickly. This is one rare customer and she knows it. She won't even tell her girlfriends about it or that guy will become the most popular man in town. So, remember, most guys can fuck, and those who can usually do it satisfactorily, but the guy who gives good head, he's got it made.
Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you've got the world's most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she's going to worry about how you like her body. Tell her it's beautiful, tell her which parts you like best, tell her anything, but get her to trust you enough to let you down between her legs.
Now stop and look at what you see. Beautiful, isn't it? There is nothing that
makes a woman more unique than her pussy. I know. I've seen plenty of them. They
come in all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside like a
little girl's cunnie and some have thick luscious lips that come out to greet
you. Some are nested in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent
fuzz. Appreciate your woman's unique qualities and tell her what makes her
special.
Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during love-making. They
also respond more to verbal love, which means, the more you talk to her, the
easier it will be to get her off. So all the time you're petting and stroking
her beautiful pussy, talk to her about it.
Now look at it again. Gently pull the lips apart and look at her inner lips,
even lick them if you want to. Now spread the tops of her pussy up until you can
find her clit. Women have clits in all different sizes, just like you guys have
different sized cocks. It doesn't mean a thing as far as her capacity for
orgasm. All it means is more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin.
Whenever you touch a woman's pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick
it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it
before you touch her clit because it doesn't have any juices of it's own and
it's extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick to it if it's dry and that
hurts. But you don't want to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that.
Before she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled.
Approach her pussy slowly. Women, even more so than men, love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her pussy, then float away. Make her anticipate it.
Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her. After you've done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she's straining to get more of you closer to her, then put your lips right on top of her slit. Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy flesh. Gently spread her legs more with your hands. Everything you do with a woman you're about to eat must be done gently.
Tongue-fuck her. This feels divine. It also teases the hell out of her
because by now she wants some attention given to her clit. Check it out. See if
her clit has gotten hard enough to peek out of it's covering. If so, lick it. If
you can't see it, it might still be waiting for you underneath. So bring your
tongue up the top of her slit and feel for her clit. You may barely experience
it's presence. But even if you can't feel the tiny pearl, you can make it rise
by licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now and press into her skin.
Gently pull the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the clit, hood
covered or not. Do this quickly. This should cause her legs to shudder. When you
sense she's getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take
the clit into your mouth. Start to suck gently and watch your lady's face for
her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck
even harder. Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the tension
of her rising orgasm, move with her, don't fight her. Hang on, and keep your hot
mouth on her clit. Don't let go. That's what she'll be saying too: 'Don't stop.
Don't ever stop!'
There's a reason for that, most men stop too soon. Just like with cock
sucking, this is something worth learning about and worth learning to do well. I
know a man who's a lousy fuck, simply lousy, but he can eat pussy like nobody I
know and he never has trouble getting a date. Girls are falling all over him.
But back to your pussy eating session...There's another thing you can do to
intensify your woman's pleasure. You can finger-fuck her while she's enjoying
your clit-licking talents. Before, during or after. She'll really like it. In
addition to the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another
extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. This is what you rub up
against when you're fucking her. Well, since your cock is pretty far away from
your mouth, your fingers will have to do the fucking.
Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three is too wide and therefore can't
get deep enough. Make sure they're wet so you don't irritate her skin. Slide
them inside, slowly at first, then a little faster. Fuck her with them
rhythmically. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her breathing.
She'll let you know what to do. If you're sucking her clit and finger-fucking
her at the same time, you're giving her far more stimulation than you would be
giving her with your cock alone. So you can count on it that she's getting high
on this. If there's any doubt, check her out for symptoms. Each woman is unique.
You may have one who's nipples get hard when she's excited or only when she's
having an orgasm. Your girl might flush red or begin to tremble. Get to know her
symptoms and you'll be a more sensitive lover.
When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven's sakes, don't let go of that
clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the
first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your
lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers
are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things are extremely
sensitive just now.
If you play your cards right, you'll get some multiple orgasms this way. A woman stays excited for a full hour after she's had an orgasm. Do you realize the full impact of that information? The potential? One woman was clocked at 56 orgasms at one sitting. Do you know what effect you would have on a woman you gave 56 orgasms to? She'd be yours as long as you wanted her.
Some women like to have their man rub and enter their anal section with their
finger while they are being eaten out!
The last advice I have for you is this: After you've made her come, made her
your slave by giving her the best head she's ever had, don't leave her alone
just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to
her quietly until she's come all the way down. A man can get off and go to sleep
in the same breath and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman by nature
requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments after sex.
Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experiences you can have. But it's what
you make it. Take your time, practice often, pay attention to your lover's
signals, and most of all, enjoy yourself. Now get to it and make your
partner smile and love you forever!
Who Has A G Spot?
Defining the "Grafenberg spot" or "G spot" is not a simple task. Most would simply say it is an area of high sensitivity located within the paraurethral structures. The problem with this definition is, the sensitivity of this area is not likely to be constant. If a woman is not sexually aroused, she may not have a G spot. If the same woman is highly aroused and her paraurethral glands are engorged with prostatic fluid, she may have a very distinct G spot. There are perhaps women who are not aware of a G spot even though they ejaculate and experience a more intense orgasm if their paraurethral glands are stimulated. It is for these reasons that it is important for people not to form a concrete definition of what a G spot is. Each woman will create her own definition, one valid only for her. The clitoris probably holds the key to female ejaculation for most women. If the clitoris is not stimulated a woman is less likely to become highly aroused. If she is not highly aroused, her paraurethral glands will not fill with fluid. If her paraurethral glands are not swollen she may not have a G spot. If her clitoris is not stimulated she is less likely to reach orgasm, preventing the rhythmic contractions of the pelvic muscles that expel and release the ejaculate. So quite simply, before you can go exploring for the G spot, you must master clitoral stimulation beforehand. There are women who are orgasmic and ejaculate when their G spot or vagina alone is stimulated, this ability is likely to be discovered accidentally versus intentionally.How do you pick out a dildo for G spot stimulation? Trial and error. The dildos that do have a good success rate are those that are curved near the tip, called G spot stimulators, and penis shaped dildos with a prominent ridge at the junction of the glans and shaft. Some women find hard plastic dildos work best, others, soft flexible ones. Some find that makeshift dildos work great, cucumbers, brush handles, mirror handles, etc. Others prefer slim dildos that they can be directed at a specific area within their vagina, others prefer their vagina to be filled and stretched to the maximum. If you are going to buy a dildo to use for G spot stimulation, be prepared to buy and try many. Any woman who is seriously considering using dildos needs to be aware that she will most likely have a collection of favorites, versus one special one. As women's moods change, so do their dildo needs. While women often start out with one, many soon find they have a drawer full of them. Some women prize their collections.
The Hymen
It appears that many people are under the impression that the hymen is
located within the vagina. It is, as the below illustrations reveal, part of the
vulva, external genital organs. It is located outside the vagina. The hymen is a
thin layer of tissue that partially conceals the vaginal orifice. During the
early stages of fetal development there is no opening into the vagina. The thin
layer of tissue that conceals the vagina at this time usually divides
incompletely prior to birth, forming the hymen. The size and shape of this
opening or openings varies greatly. Sometimes this formation of an opening does
not occur, resulting in the imperforated hymen shown in the bottom illustration.
Some girls do not have a hymen at birth, as the tissue divides completely while
they are still in the womb. Many girls and teens tear or otherwise dilate their
hymen while engaging in sports, horseback riding, inserting tampons, and while
masturbating. A girl may not know this has occurred, since there may be little
or no blood loss or pain involved in this event. The tissues of the vulva are
generally very thin and delicate prior to puberty. The presence or absence of a
hymen in no way indicates a girl's virginal state. Some hymen are elastic enough
to permit a penis to enter without tearing, or tear only partially. This is
usually only true if the dilation first occurs very gradually with fingers or
other objects over an extended period of time. Remnants of the hymen are usually
present until a woman delivers a girl vaginally. The hymen can be seen in this
photograph of a young woman's vulva.
Orgasm Experiences
Diane
I love to masturbate. One of my favorite techniques is a little different. First
I start by tweaking and pinching my large nipples. The touch of my nipples
erupts a sensation in my genital area and starts my juices flowing. I love large
nipples. I then lay on the bed on my back in a reclined position. Legs are
spread very wide and I massage with my second, third and fourth fingers making
sure to get my clitoris nice and lubricated with my vaginal juices. While
massaging my clitoris in a circular motion and moving my hips to meet each
stroke, I am simultaneously sucking and biting my nipples and fantasizing. As my
nipples get larger and harder, my clitoris gets larger and longer with increased
sensitivity. As I feel the wave of the orgasm building harder I hold my breath
and I have an intense ejaculating orgasm.
Jodi
First I read a very erotic book or magazine while in the bathtub, then I let the
water flow at a very slow rate and lie on my back (the water level is fairly
low) and place my genital area under the water flow. I use one hand, usually the
left, to "open" the area then lie back and fantasize!! The results are great!!
Sometimes I use the ribbed end of my hairbrush if I feel like I need a little
more, or if I am really frustrated. Also a hand held shower head with a real
fast pulsating stream works great!!
Bev
I love my orgasms and none are as intense as the ones I experience through
masturbation. I have two techniques. One is in the shower, standing with legs
spread, fixing the shower massage to *pulse* and letting the water hit the side
of my clitoris (head on is way to sensitive). The brain is the largest sex
organ. I fantasize and have incredible orgasms. The other way is on my back, on
the bed, with a tiny vibrator (called a *pocketrocket*). Again, I move it up and
down and in a circular motion on the SIDE of my clit. Sometimes I need to fill
myself and have a dildo handy for the last second so I can contract on
something, feel like I'm pulling it in. I love to cum during intercourse, but
it's rarely as intense.
Lee
While laying naked on my back, I lubricate my anus, anal area and clitoris with
either K-Y jelly or my own bodily fluid. I stick the index finger of my left
hand into my vagina to get it wet or add more K-Y onto that finger. Then, I
slowly slide that finger into my anus giving good, deep pressure, while at the
same time, sliding the thumb of that same hand into my vagina. Then, with the
anal and vaginal stimulation, I rub my clitoris in circular motions with my
right index finger. While rubbing my clitoris, I wiggle the fingers of the left
hand inside of myself -- almost in a pinching motion. The combination of these
three types of stimulation bring on fast and intense orgasms for me! It's almost
as if my vagina and anus are both having orgasms (like a double orgasm).
Katie
First, I like to flicker my clit while laying on my back in my bed. Then I think
about my girlfriend licking me all over and start to rub it gently with my
dildo. Then I slide it in ever so gently and move it in and out at a good rhythm
while rubbing my clit. Then I cum like never before. It is very erotic for me.
Alexis
Because I believe that masturbation is a celebration of myself and womanhood, I
always fantasize about other women when I masturbate. I have so many great ways
of doing it that I couldn't write them all in one sitting. My absolute favorite
is the ben wa balls. It lasts a long time and rocking back and forth or humping
on the floor or bed is so stimulating for me. While the ben wa balls are
inserted inside my vagina, I play with my clit. It's usually with my right index
finger, but sometimes I pinch it.
Joanna
I have a variety of ways - simple direct contact with the most sensitive part of
my clitoris - that's when I'm desperate and I want the most sensations the most
quickly. This is normally quick and reasonably satisfying. I have fantasies
about being tied down and being watched - this usually speeds the orgasm
forward. The best times are when I have time. I take off all my clothes and lie
on the bed face down with a pillow between my thighs. I push down with my body
onto my constantly moving index finger and with my other hand caress my breasts
and nipples - sometimes pinching them for an extra buzz. This works like a dream
and gives, for me the best orgasms.
Mary
I've been masturbating since I was a little girl, not knowing what it was... I
just knew rubbing myself down there felt good and would give me a rush like no
other. Now, usually, I get the best orgasms by laying face down with the heel of
my hand pressing right above my clit, right on the shaft. I insert one or more
fingers in my vagina and just pump hard. I usually have my other hand either
pressing it harder against me or holding onto something else to help rock my
body. It is the best rush that my whole body convulses sometimes.
Heather
My clit is about .75 in. long - a bit larger than most women. When it's aroused,
it's around 1.5 in. I like to masturbate by wearing underwear with a fly,
opening the fly and letting the air tease my clit, and then running my fingers
all over it. Tonight, I'll probably masturbate myself to sleep in my waterbed.
When my clit is throbbing and engorged, I bring myself to orgasm through the
thumb and finger technique. I place my thumb on the top of my hood and a couple
fingers underneath my hood. Then, I move my fingers in a circular motion and
explode in orgasm.
Kimberly
My preferred method is to use a vibrator, but if I don't have one with me, I can
use my hand just as easily (one benefit of a "hand job" is the juicy 'wet
sounds' that my pussy makes when I'm fully aroused!) I'm very visually
stimulated, so I'll either read a sexy book, watch an adult movie, or cruise a
hot website. I love the feeling of sitting at my desk, or in front of the TV,
clit throbbing, feeling my pussy get wetter and wetter. Once I'm ready to play,
I'll go to the bed and lay flat on my back, with my legs spread wide. My
dominant hand in self love is my left one, so the right one usually gets tucked
up under the pillows. Yes, I'm one of those classic "one hand wonders"! LOL!
Since I have not yet had sex with a man, I have no idea what it feels like to
have a guy inside me, or on top of me, so I usually think about the guy of my
dreams sitting beside me, watching me pleasure myself, at the same time
masturbating himself. Again, this isn't something I've had the opportunity to do
in real life, but in my dreams, it's damn nice to feel like his loving eyes are
on me, observing my sexual responses. It actually intensifies my arousal! The
only drawback to masturbation is that I can reach climax so quickly, and then
it's a major letdown. I can't surprise myself, after all!! :) So lately what
I've been doing is stimulating myself ALMOST to orgasm, then stopping for a few
moments, catching my breath, etc. Usually I shut my vibe off totally. Sometimes
it's so damn good I hate to quit, but I want to prolong my pleasure as much as
possible. As my clit becomes more erect, I'll draw my legs apart as far as they
can go, while also drawing my knees toward my chest. It makes my clit stick out
more, and it feels WONDERFUL!! I prefer direct, firm stimulation on my clit. I
intend to continue masturbating even after I'm in a committed relationship, and
it's a shame that women in our society place such strong taboos against it. It's
a beautiful thing, and I can't imagine what my life would be like if I couldn't
have a nice paw every now and again.
Sylvia
I can't be the only woman out there who loves having orgasms while standing up,
can I? I think I started doing this in the shower when I was younger, but I
hardly do it there anymore. I like laying on the bed (or sitting with pillows
behind me) and teasing myself for awhile, until I am very close to orgasm. Then
I pause and shift so that my feet are on the floor with my legs still a little
apart. I start diddling again until I am at the point of no return. Then I
quickly stand up before I get too weak to make it to my feet, and cum that way.
Orgasms like this are very intense and afterward I am so wobbly and lightheaded
that my legs can barely support me. Anyone who hasn't tried it this way should!!
Bea
Using my hands is definitely the most intense and longest orgasm-producing
method for me, although I'm a bit self-conscious about my clit--it seems to be
very small. As a , I had many sexual contacts with my girlfriends, but none
led to orgasm, because we didn't know that we had clits, much less what to do
with them. So we'd get in between each other's legs and shine a flashlight on
our genitals. Some girlfriends would open their lips, and I'd do the same. The
light shining on a hairless, open vulva is a very predominant and fond memory,
and those memories play largely in my fantasies, even now. I love to have no
panties on, and the feel of spreading my legs to feel my lips open is
delightful. When I masturbate, I open my lips as far as they can go with my
right hand and begin to stroke my pussy with the middle finger of my left hand,
usually remembering all my hood sexual experiences. As the juices begin to
flow, I hold my lips wide open, and if there's a breeze caressing my pussy, so
much the better. I pull my lips up, to completely expose my clit, then rub
directly on my clit until I come. I often wish I had a female friend to just
masturbate with, to watch (and watch me), especially now that I know about such
a wonderful thing, like my clit!
Anonymous
I adore masturbation! I do it daily and have since I was 11. I enjoy laying on
my bed and stroking my thighs, progressing to my vagina & clitoris. I like to
massage my clit as I fondle & stroke my lips.......I finger and spread my
vaginal juices as I rub the sides of my clit and rub the hood & flicker it back
& forth.....It feels sooooo good....I rub my clit and fantasize. I also enjoy my
vibrator but my fingers are a great clit vibrator!
Robin
I knew I wasn't the only one doing this but never realized so many woman do,
that's great.... I love masturbating and cuming, nothing like a good orgasm to
start your day or end your night.... I like it any way, hands, fingers,
vibrator, I can control it and the pleasure it brings, one way is in the shower
spread my legs, let the water beat down on me and gently rub my clit, when I cum
legs get very weak, so I usually start in the shower and finish in bed. Legs
spread wide open one hand separates my lips the other strokes my clit, then
insert two fingers in my vagina and my thumb rubs my clit. My juices are flowing
and fingers are wet. Remove fingers to get clit wet and start again. I try and
make it last a long time, almost there and stop... then start again......I
fantasize while doing this, usually me and another woman, thinking of all the
things she would do to me. This gets me to the point of no return quite
rapidly.. the orgasms are very intense and wish the feeling would last a little
longer but love it when the eyes roll back and hips come off the waterbed, I
tingle all over, legs are weak, breathing is heavy, heart pounding, damn wish I
had a female friend who would do this for me.......
Sara
I absolutely LOVE to touch myself...I read an erotic book / look @ pictures of
sexy women [I am a virgin]. Then I spread my legs wide open and rub ointment -
those kind u put on when u get a mosquito bite [it gives the warm & tingly
feeling], then stroke my clit with my fingernail.. gently at first then
gradually getting harder & harder. --at the same moment.. I fantasize about
having sexy girls licking and nibbling at me...-- as I get wetter & wetter I
stick 2 fingers into my vagina...then slowly insert the 3rd...the tight squeeze
is so wonderful! Then to increase satisfaction I wriggle them about inside me
slightly...then I CUM..... Another alternative is the bathtub way...fill the tub
till the water just covers the anus. Then as it fills, rub the hand spray slowly
across & against your clit [to max satisfaction make sure the hand spray is
touching your clit]. Move it up and down SLOWLY......then as the water rises up,
rub harder and more vigorously...then at the last possible moment...u just leave
the water pounding and thundering right into your vagina.......OOOOOOH....the
feeling is the best... (Note: While it is okay to spray water against the vulva,
I would recommend against squirting water into the vagina itself.) Anyone got
any hints on masturbating even when u have your period? coz I hate having to
wait for it to end before I can touch myself! (Note: Women shouldn't view
masturbation during their menstrual period any differently than they do during
the remainder of their menstrual cycle. If you want to, go for it.) Oh I forgot
to add this - try squeezing your thighs together when u finger
yourself...squeeze 'em tight against each other, and kind of 'force' your way
through into the vagina - if u noe what I mean
Loria
I stimulate my nipples till they get real hard, I continue this until I'm really
wet and aching down there. But I keep my hands focused on my nipples. I then
move my thighs to increase the blood circulation. When my clitoris is swollen
and sensitive, I squeeze my thighs together putting pressure to my clitoris.
Then I flap my thighs to give some feeling of impulse. I then rock to-and-fro
and breath deeply till I reach orgasm. I achieve it without using my hands on my
genitals. This method may take longer to reach climax but it sure prolongs the
pleasure.
Ashley
I'm the only one that I think masturbates like this. I first take an empty
bottle (plastic) and place the opening over my clitoris and squeeze some of the
air out so it makes a suction in the bottle. Then I pull it out allowing the
suction to move the hood over my clitoris. I push it in and out, it allows me to
have the best orgasms! Even better when you put a little bit of warm water in
the bottle or warmed K-Y Jelly. Another way I have found very satisfying is when
I take the shower head off of the shower allowing the water to hit my clitoris
really hard and it's best when the water is really warm, all you have to do is
spread your legs, lay back and fantasize.
Tiffany
I love masturbating! I first start by rubbing the hood of my clitoris left and
right, alternating between large strokes and small strokes. Right before I get
ready to orgasm (on a scale of 1-10, 10 being orgasm, I'm at 7), I stick my
fingers inside myself, and wiggle them in circles until I come. It's the most
amazing feeling.
Danielle Part I
I have been masturbating since I was very young. When I was 11 (and still
masturbating) I felt really guilty about what I was doing. But I found out what
I was doing and that all of the girls in my class did it. When I was 14 there
were lots of sleepovers and we were dared to go out in the front lawn naked and
try to get to orgasm. (While at her friend's house.)
Now I still masturbate and what I do is I will open my zipper on my jeans with
no underwear on and tease myself by blowing near my clit and very softly rub it.
Then I will get really aroused and I will take off my jeans and rub my clit in a
circular motion and if I lick my fingers and get them wet and rub I become a lot
more aroused.
My other technique is to take a hand held shower head that is really powerful
and hold it an inch away from my clit. It REALLY works!
Danielle Part II
Thanks, I was really happy when I found out that all of my friends did it. All
of my friends were happy. We all discovered the same thing. After that we had
many adventures with orgasm and we helped each other find ways to pleasure
ourselves. And when we got boyfriends most of them thought it was very erotic. I
am 19 now, turning 20 in a month, and I haven't had sex yet and I don't know how
it feels but I do know that my friends and I can pleasure ourselves just the
same. We have found very erotic and exiting ways to get to orgasm. We did one
thing when I was 12 to feel dangerous and add suspense to it, we stayed up all
night and at the crack of dawn we laid out in the old pasture at my house and
masturbated. There was a lot of suspense going around by the cause of getting
caught. But, we loved it. It made us feel good. And being able to share so much
with you and others on the site really makes me feel good too!
Tammy
The way I find most pleasurable in masturbation is to spread my legs wide open
and open my labia. I expose my clit and massage it ever so gently until I come.
Then, sometimes I use this electric pen that vibrates and rub it gently onto my
clitoris. That is the way I masturbate and find most pleasurable.
Marie
I like to be totally naked from the waist down, legs spread wide open. I enjoy
fantasizing and teasing myself slowly. I start by spreading my lips with my
fingers and tapping all around them slowly. I alternate with grabbing my
clitoris between my thumb and forefinger and gently squeezing. I try to hold out
for as long as I can and when I feel I'm almost there, I use two fingers and
push down hard on my hood and rub my clitoris all around at a steady rate. Just
before orgasm I insert fingers from my other hand in and out as I continue
rubbing faster. My orgasm is intense and sometimes I even ejaculate!
Mary J.
The most pleasurable way I masturbate is to lie on my back and spread my legs as
wide as I can get them. Then I take one of my hands and spread my labia fully
exposing my clitoris then I take my vibrator and rub it against my clitoris
until it is in the perfect spot and hold it there while inserting a large round
object into my vagina, then I move that object in and out of my pussy until I
come to all fully orgasm!!!!!!!!
Par
I have many pleasurable experiences relating to my hood. I started
exploring before age 5. My sister and I spent many a pleasurable afternoon
exploring each others parts.
I didn't know what climax meant at that age but I know it felt good as each of
us pulled down our panties, lay on our backs and opened up our little splits
wide and the other would rub and play with the clitoris. Sometimes we would just
leave the panties on and pull them to the side with one hand and open our little
lips with the other and let them touch and rub, we took turns. Now when I
masturbate, I will look at pictures because I am stimulated that way, or I will
go to some hot website, I will begin to rub the area around my clit, while
thinking of all my pleasant hood memories, the climax is intense and hot.
Carrie
I love masturbating and have been doing it since I was 4, when I saw another
little girl at day care hump her cot - and I started doing it - then I
discovered the clit. I have many ways of masturbating - my favorite is getting
in the shower, and putting the hand-held shower head right onto my clit. I
orgasm in about a minute. Another is masturbating on the phone with my boyfriend
while he does the same. It's very intense. I've always wanted another female to
do it to me - I think it would be way more intense. Women know what feels good.
Cindy
When I masturbate I think one of the kinkiest things I've ever done is let my
boyfriend watch me while I start by caressing my tits and playing with my nipple
rings so I can get really wet. Then after a while I work my way down my stomach
and start rubbing my thighs. Then I'll get some of my juices and start rubbing
my clit with my right hand. I'll keep doing this until I'm about to cum and then
I stick three fingers in my pussy with my left hand and start rubbing my g-spot.
Its totally crazy at how high I feel after I cum. Sometimes I'll even let my
boyfriend finish me while he sucks on my tits. Then it seems like my orgasms
just keep going and going. Its even better when my bf gets off and starts
masturbating himself so we can watch each other. Then I'm in heaven.
Tinisha
I love to masturbate!!! I have been touching myself "down there" every since I
was about nine years old. It's been so long ago when I started that I don't even
remember the first time! When I masturbate, I like to be alone. First I will
strip down to my undies, and get a mirror, because I love to look at my pussy it
makes me even hornier. I will put my finger right on the tip of my clit and rub
in a circular motion. This feels so good. Then I will stick my fingers inside of
myself until I am about to cum. When I feel myself about to cum I stop. Then I
will rub my clit again at a very fast speed until I cum, this is the best
feeling in the world!
Sue Part I
Hi my name is Sue. I have been masturbating since I was little. I am an only
, and I would just love to have another female to do it with. I would love
to touch her body, and if at all possible, I would want her to do the same to
me. Well what I like to do when masturbating is going totally naked. I decided
to do this while my parents where on vacation last year. What I did was I went
in my room and closed the curtains, took off my clothes and let it rip. I got
into bed, and pulled the covers up over my head, and then I started to touch my
breasts. I had both hands on them, and I squeezed them, and I felt my clitoris
rise. This felt good. Then after I did that I put one hand on my clitoris, and
with my index finger, I rubbed it in a circular motion, and my vagina was wet.
This was an awesome orgasm. As I kept on rubbing it it got harder and the
orgasms where better than ever! Then my other hand was on my crotch, while the
other one was on my clitoris, and I started to rub both places at the same time,
and it was just beautiful! I was in heaven! Not! When I came to climax, I put
the hand that was on my crotch, well I moved it and my index finger, I put it
inside my vagina, and that was when I came. That experience was great. I am
hooked and I do it every night. The best thing was I did it at college, and my
roommate did not know anything about that. Also my parents don't know either. I
have enjoyed it since I was little, and I will continue to. I am twenty four
years old soon to be twenty five on the 18 of April. Either way I will
masturbate on my birthday.
Sue Part II
Cool! I hope that everyone will give it a try. I just think masturbating like
this is great! I know for one thing tonight I am going to do it again, and I
just love it! Even though I am single and not had sex yet, I think masturbating
is a great way to know your body, and it is safe, and it is kind of like having
sex with yourself. Like I told you before I would love to do it with another
female. I have gotten naked in front of a girl, but I never had a chance to
check her out, so hopefully I can ask one of my friends to strip down, so I
could check her out. I am just curious to see if she will like it. If anything,
I am going to ask her, if she feels comfortable doing this. I am not going to
force her, if she does not want to. I understand why.
Christine
I love to masturbate! First I visualize my lover giving me oral sex and it
starts to get me excited. I pull my pants down just below my vagina, and leave
my blouse on. There is very little exposed to the air. I like to fantasize that
we are in public and he just cannot control himself and he has to do me right
then and there! So trying to be discrete, he takes the pants down ever so
slightly. I put two fingers on one hand inside my vagina while stimulating the
clitoris with the other hand. I rub in circular motions, ever so softly and move
my fingers inside around as well. I begin to visualize the people in this public
place now noticing us and wanting to be part of the action. But I have to tell
them, "Not until he makes me cum, not until then. After he does, then you can
participate too." When I start to cum I have to stimulate myself so softly and
then I can cum again, and then again, but the stimulation has to be very, very
soft. I do it in bed in the middle of the night sometimes or at home when I am
alone just watching TV. What a rush!
Anonymous
I think I could be the weirdest girl on the planet. I like to masturbate while
lying on my stomach. I take my right hand and place it over the left lip of my
pussy. Then, I press hard while keeping my fingers tightly together. My clit is
underneath feeling the friction. I move my fingers back and forth, up and down.
I have to keep my legs straight and together and have my toes on the ground
pressing as hard as I can. This helps to give more pressure "down there." This
is the only way I can reach orgasms. Not even wild and kinky sex with my
boyfriend can give me an orgasm.
This method of masturbation isn't that unusual. This technique is thought to
develop in early hood as a result of trying to hide your masturbation
activities from your parents and others. You try real hard to look like you are
doing nothing but sleeping so you remain motionless and quite. The problem is
that this position and technique are hard to adapt to partner sex. As in this
case, orgasm with a partner can be difficult or impossible to achieve when it is
your only means of achieving orgasm. This is because you are laying on your
stomach concealing most of your erogenous areas and your straight ridged legs
prevent access to your vulva. The thigh tension resulting from pressing on the
floor is also difficult to reproduce. You likely restrict your breathing and
vocalizations as well. Betty Dodson in her video Celebrating Orgasm coaches a
woman who uses this technique to be able to masturbate to orgasm while laying on
her back with her legs spread. It is advisable for women who masturbate using
this technique to explore other options, and not to fall back on their time
proven method when others fail to result in orgasm just as easily. It takes time
to retrain your mind and body to new masturbation methods. Women who use this
technique can still share their orgasms with their partner by allowing their
partner to watch and masturbate at the same time.
Leigh
I love to masturbate - I like to lie in my bed, legs spread wide with a lighted
makeup mirror between my legs. I have a beautiful flesh colored vibrator that I
use to tease my clit - I love to watch my self pleasure in the mirror. I also
have wonderful anal beads that I use when I please myself. I lube them, insert
them in my ass and then go to work on my pussy. I work my vibrator on my clit,
watching and feeling it get completely engorged. When, I get ready to come, I
start to pull my anal beads out, one by one, and I watch my clit literally dance
up and down on my vibrator! The anal beads enhance my climax sooo much - I
recommend them to anyone who wants a more intense orgasm - while my pussy is
cumming, and while I am pulling them out - the tugging action makes it all the
more intense - my anus doesn't want to let them go while my pussy is climaxing -
it's a totally awesome feeling, one that I am so glad I discovered. Someone told
me once it's because the muscles for climaxing are the same ones that are near
your anus so that's why it's so pleasurable - doesn't matter - I recommend anal
beads to everyone who wants that intense feeling. Afterwards, I love to lay
there and feel my clit relax; it throbs while it's losing it's erection.
Sometimes I use a dildo while I am masturbating for that full feeling - that's
intense too - my pussy almost pushes it out I cum so hard!
Jeanne
Oh yes for pleasure I rub my clit and mostly lay down to do so....but have stood
while rubbing also...my friend sent me this site with my thxs because I feel
every girl or woman should not be ashamed to stimulate and give pleasure to
their selves ...I love to watch porn movies and rub my clit while watching
really gets me to climax good....with fingers start slowly and work to a faster
pace as feel the urge build...then insert couple fingers in my vagina and stroke
in and out fast and hard and still rub my clit with other hand and fingers
around clit and area around.
Stace
I started masturbating when I was about 11, and I'm 19 now. At first I would use
my fingernail on my right index finger and flick it back and forth over my clit
and I would come that way. I use the hand held shower too, that works. I read
someone's entry about using an electric toothbrush (I looked for the girl's name
and the entry but I couldn't find it) it drove me CRAZY! I loved it, I've been
using my toothbrush more often than my fingers. Just some reminders -- use a new
toothbrush. You don't want the stuff that was in your mouth to be on or inside
your pussy -- remember not to leave the toothbrush on the handle, take the one
you use for masturbation and put it somewhere else and take it out for
pleasuring.
Nicole
Let me tell me about my masturbation actions. Probably not so spectacular, but I
think it's important to talk about it. Mostly I begin to fantasize and touch my
nipples. Can take a few minutes but also hours. Then I caress my clitoris over
and over again. Which is really great. I must admit by writing this my clit is
getting hot. So this can be also erotic. The most special thing is that I can do
it in bed but also on the bus, train and public places without anyone noticing
it. Sometimes I finish it in the lavatories or not so much public places. That's
what I wanted to tell.
Anonymous
I'm only 14 and I've been masturbating since I was about 4. Until now, I always
thought I was weird for doing it so early, but I see that its normal. Now I feel
more comfortable with myself doing these things to myself, and not feel ashamed
or embarrassed. Since I am a virgin, I've never had anything in my vagina but
tampons, so I personally don't feel pleasured by having anything stimulating
that area. I love to put my vibrator on my clit, changing batteries to get a
different strength and speed every now and then. While I do this, I am usually
having cyber sex, or phone once in a while to get a different feeling. Though
its not like the real thing, its nice to have someone do it with you, revealing
their fantasies and techniques with you. Thus, you get a different feel and
excitement each time, so you never get tired of yourself! Oh, and by the way, I
really want to try the showerhead method, but mine doesn't detach, and I can't
position myself under the water pipe.. can anyone give me any tips to get the
same feeling without destroying my bathtub or hurting myself? They make hand
held shower heads that attach to your bathtub faucet by means of a rubber booty.
The booty slips over the faucet. You don't need to modify your bathroom in
anyway to use one. You can use the shower head to spray water on your vulva or
remove the shower head and direct a stream of water against your clitoris and
vulva. Department and hardware stores likely carry them in the section where
they sell bathroom fixtures. Pet stores may have them as well for bathing your
pet. Be sure to check the water temperature first. It is not wise to direct
water up into the vagina, it interferes with the natural flora and increases the
chance of vaginal and pelvic infections.
Rose
Hi my name is Rose, I just turned 17 and I have been masturbating since I was
about 15. I am a virgin and am uncomfortable with anything actually entering me.
I usually masturbate in the shower. Sometimes I use my index or middle finger
and massage my clit when I really want to just come. Other times when I want to
draw it out and make it last I rub my nipples while standing up. When I start to
feel horny, I adjust the shower spray. I don't have a hand held one sadly, so I
adjust the spray so it's just right. (Fortunately it takes some time so I get
the chance to massage my nipples and play with my breasts more.) Once I've
adjust the flow of water, depending on how I want to come, I lie down on my back
on the shower floor. I then spread my legs wide and allow the shower spray to
hit my clit. Some times I play with my large breasts while fantasizing about my
crush. It helps me when I fantasize about him going down on me, licking and
sucking my clit until I orgasm. Its a wonderful experience I usually take very
long showers. Sometimes I picture a girl going down on me and it makes it even
better. I used to think this was bad and it would make me out to be a lesbian.
But after visiting this site I realize now that masturbating is nothing to be
ashamed of and neither is fantasizing about a woman doing these things to you. I
mean who better is going to please you then a someone who has the same physical
parts as you? I only wish I could find someone who is willing to experiment with
me. Thank you for allowing me to share my experiences.
Amanda
I am 25 years old and I have just begun to really masturbate in the past 6
months. When I was younger I use to play with Barbies. I would lock my door and
take off my shorts and panties and rub the Barbie dolls head on my pussy. It
felt great, however I never experienced an orgasm. One day my friend and I were
playing school and she told me to pretend I was the teacher and she was this bad
boy in class. She began looking up my skirt and then she began tickling my pussy
over my panties. Eventually we took my panties off and she rubbed her fingers
around it. It felt soooo good. I then did the same to her. We also use to swim
in her pool and she taught me that if you put your pussy in front of the pool
jet it would feel great. I did it and boy did it ever. So much that I couldn't
take it. I still do that today. Any ways, I stopped masturbating after that
because as I got older it made me feel dirty. However, once I got my computer I
found this site and some others about masturbation and got some ideas that I
wanted to try. I now masturbate at least 3 times a week, I go in my room after
looking at masturbation and porn sites and sometimes put on a porno. I take my
clothes off and get in bed. I usually begin by putting a vibrating dildo in me
and rubbing it around. It isn't very powerful and never makes me cum but it does
get me going. I then get wet and put a plug in body vibrator and rub it around
my clit. It doesn't take long for my pussy to start throbbing and it feels so
good. I cum so quickly. I love the feeling when I cum but it doesn't' last very
long and I want to do it over and over but my clit is to sensitive. Any
suggestions?
Jenny
I'm surprised that no-one has mentioned where they masturbate. Because my
earliest masturbation experiences date from my schooldays where I used to do it
in the toilet, I have got a fascination for masturbating in this place. Quite
often when I am at work, or just out, I feel the urge coming on and I head for
the ladies' room. I must have had 100's of orgasms sitting in cubicles, and I
know I'm not the only one. At least one house-mate from younger days used to do
in the toilet which was next to my bedroom, and I could clearly hear her ( it
usually got me going as well). Also in public rest-rooms I've overheard quite
obvious orgasms from adjacent cubicles, even though there have been attempts to
stifle them. Everyone knows that guys do it in there, but how many women would
own up to it as well. I'd be interested to hear.
Gin
Okay, I am relatively new to the masturbation game. I have been married 10 years
and never cum with my husband. He was my first lover and he isn't very
imaginative. So what got me started masturbating? Well, to be honest a friend
sent me copies of a show called Red Shoe Diaries. And I was totally aroused by
the character Jake. In a scene where he does it to her from behind. He looked so
wild and so-intense that I couldn't help myself. I started touching myself and
thinking about the actor, David Duchovny, and the way he looked. How he
possessed her. I fantasize about that actor and about people I meet or see that
look as though they would possess me that way. I have tried to get my hubby to
be more aggressive but I guess that masturbation is the only way I'll cum. Until
I can get my husband to feel openly about masturbation. If anyone knows how I
can get the things these other women talked about. Please let me know.
Grace
I am 19 and have been masturbating for almost a year now, it is soooooooo good
to be able to make myself come. My favorite technique is simple, using my
fingers to rub until I come. I would love to have a female friend to do this
with. I fantasize about being outside in the bushes while my lover is trying to
hide ourselves, so that others don't see. He is saying, "Don't make any noise,"
but ohhhh it is hard not to when I come all over his sexy body.
Well I am 14 years old and I have been masturbating ever since I was about 10. I
think a lot of the girls that wrote in are lucky because they had friends who
masturbated when they were young. My friends don't masturbate and I don't want
to tell them I do because I'm afraid they will think I am sick or something. So
I keep it to myself. My favorite way to masturbate is to rub my clit against the
arm of my couch, while watching porns. Preferably lesbian porns. I like to get
totally naked and I rub while I am caressing my tits. I usually do this when
everyone is sleeping or when I am home alone. It takes a while 'til I climax but
the pleasure while doing it is unbearable. Note: The videos belong to her
parents.
Kathleen
I start by taking off my clothing and going into the bathroom. I like to look at
my breasts and let my hand roam from my lower abdomen to my breast and stroke
the underside, and around my nipple. This starts to get me wet. I usually think
about being penetrated by my partner, but sometimes I will think about a women
touching my breasts or kissing me all over. I will then let my roaming hand dip
between my legs, and start to rub my outer lips before actually going for my
inner lips or clit, but I can definitely feel my lips start to swell and my
lubrication start to flow. I then make it to my bed where I lie with one leg
spread out and the other up so that my foot is flat on my bed. I slide my left
hand between my legs and start to rub with my middle finger. After I am very wet
and near cumming, I usually will let two fingers enter my pussy and with my
right hand I will stroke my clit. It is not long before I cum. I have been known
to use dildos and I am happy to say, thickness counts, because I have that ache.
And it’s twice as much fun to be watched.
Joanniela
I love to masturbate!! I used to have a fear of anything sexual, until I made
myself do it. I started out at the age of 17 or 18 and I always left my
underwear on. I didn't want to do the skin touching skin thing yet...I was
nervous after all. Then I finally made myself do it without my underwear on and
it was even better! Masturbation is not just touching yourself between your
legs, it's feeling your way around your whole body. Run your hand around your
legs, arms, neck, stomach, breasts, try licking or sucking your own nipples.
It's amazing what kind of sexual level you can get to. One thing I have been
doing is...placing a ball (like size of a tennis ball) where my clit is. I'm
sitting and I kind of rub against the ball, or kind of hump the ball. It took a
while to get it, but when I got it...the feeling that built up inside of me was
wonderful. Masturbation is one way to help you find out what you like and don't
like. I'm glad I made myself do it!!!
Anonymous
I use my middle finger in either a small circle or directly on my clit. I
alternate this with dipping into my vagina (for more moisture and g-spot). I do
this flat on my back with my legs slightly open. When I cum my legs go together
tightly, and my clit seems to grow larger. I've taught my husband how to do this
and he is great! I can relax and not have to worry about finger coordination. I
fantasize about all sorts of things while I do it, too much to go into here.
Helen
I wonder if an older woman can make a contribution to this page. I am 65 years
old and masturbation has played an important part in my sex life for over 30
years now.
When I was growing up in the 50's, most middle class girls hadn't even heard of
masturbation, let alone done it. Like most girls of my generation I was totally
inexperienced and ignorant when I married, and frankly my marriage was a
disaster from the sex point of view. It was only when the sexual revolution came
along in the 60's when I was over 30 that I started to read about and experiment
with masturbation and finally discovered sexual pleasure. Like Jenny (previous
contributor) my activity mainly took place in the toilet (at work) as this was
one place I could guarantee privacy, as my husband would come into our bathroom,
which was never locked. I therefore had my first ever orgasm in this rather
unromantic place, and I still sometimes do it in there because of some sort of
association of ideas I suppose. Unlike Jenny I've never heard anyone else doing
it, perhaps my hearing is not so sharp!
I am long divorced, but still masturbate quite frequently (about twice a week),
although now it's mainly in bed. I'm afraid it's nothing more imaginative than
middle finger on the clitoris, which usually takes only 2-3 minutes. Still, it
works every time. One thing I regret, though, is that my generation doesn't have
the same frankness in discussing sexual matters as the younger ones, as I would
love to speak with other women about these things. This is why I find your site
so valuable and I hope others will continue my education process with their
contributions.
Sadey
When I masturbate I usually wait till I'm home alone. I get completely naked and
go outside to the pool. It feels so good to play w/myself outside where the sun
beams down on my body. I usually lie on a raft and float in the pool where I
then fantasize about another woman caressing my body. I take my index and middle
finger and go back and forth with my clit in between my fingers; I take my other
hand and finger myself. After I reach my orgasm, I get off the raft and sit on
the creepy crawler hose (it vibrates really fast.) I adjust my lips so the hose
is hitting my clitoris in the perfect spot! When I'm done with that I go inside
and rub myself some more until I cannot do it anymore. I do this almost
everyday, it relieves a lot of stress and tension. She added: The creepy crawler
hose is a long hose (It shakes or vibrates). It has a vacuum at the end of it
that cleans the pool while you swim. It stays in the pool! I would guess the
water pulsing through the hose creates the vibrations. Now how is it women
discover these things? ;-)
Tabatha
I recently found this page, I read all the techniques and even tried most of
them, I found some of them to work great, and some not so great. When I'm
getting ready to masturbate, I search my house for any items resembling a penis.
I’ve used items such as cucumbers, carrots, candles, fat markers, and even water
bottles, then I place a condom over it to lubricate it. I slide the item all
over my body, sometimes I squeeze the object between my breasts and "Tity-fuck"
myself while moving my pelvis around. Once I’m finished doing that, I start off
slowly rubbing my fingers on my clitoris getting faster and faster, I then stick
the object in my vagina and w/my other hand I pinch my clit when I’m coming to a
climax, and do that repeatedly.
If I am at work (desk job) when not many people are around, I take the phone
handle and place it on my clitoris and rub it up and down till I am satisfied!
Kimberly
I am 26 I started masturbating around 4 or 5. Strange but I saw this picture of
myself (in my head) pleasuring myself in a certain position and something told
me 'Try this' and I did and I have been an avid masturbator since then, but only
possible in one position, until about 2 years ago. I must be on my stomach and
with both hands down in my clit area. I rotate my hips and move my hands and I
can have several orgasms often. 2 years ago I was able to simulate this on my
back-but it takes muscle clenching in the legs and arms and holding my breath
several times to get there. I think I can't cum with a guy because my first love
was someone who didn't love me- it wasn't a relationship, I was used. He was a
neighbor who was 8 years older, I was 15. I had very crooked teeth and didn't
have many friends, so I hung out with the 3 boys next door, and got a crush on
the oldest one 8 years older. By the time he wanted a relationship I was done
with him. I have a friend that masturbates in the same position that I do, we
both can orgasm in that position when being made love to like that. It's killing
my current relationship. He is a very sexual person. How do I master this??
Fran
My name is Fran and I am a 53-year-old woman who has masturbated for the last 5
years. I got into it since I was married to an older man who didn't want to
satisfy me any longer. I was too young to do without one of the greatest
pleasures of life, and so I bought a few videos and tried various techniques in
them. All seemed to work fine if you have privacy, but the one that works for me
is this one. Put on a pair of rather tight-fitting jeans (the ones with the
denim seams across the pubic area). Sit down any where there's a hard surface
and start to move your hips until you experience a "sensation". If you couple
this feeling with some vivid thoughts, you will experience a wonderful orgasm
and no one will know it. (unless you're a real screamer) I've used this
technique very successfully while driving on long and boring trips (I have a
long commute every week). It sure makes the time go faster!!!!
Annabelle
I was told about your site and visited it after I was assured it was not a porn
site but a genuine one with real aims and beliefs. My name is Annabelle but my
friends call me Belle. I am 15 and British but I live in Kuala Lumpur in
Malaysia because my father got a job here and brought me and my sister here (my
mother died three years ago). I am still unsure of my sexuality because although
I like boys I got far stronger crushes on females, sometimes other girls at
school, sometimes teachers or other adult women I meet or see on television or
in magazines I started masturbating just after my Mum died although I think I
used to do it without thinking when I was younger. My technique is to lie on my
tummy across the bed with a picture on the floor and trap my wrist between my
legs so the bones in my wrist are pressing hard against the base of my clitoris.
By sort of sawing my legs and slowly rotating my wrist the pressure is
heavy-light, heavy-light and I can control how fast or strong, or slow and
light, as I want it. My current fantasy is Brittany but I have also fantasized
about K.D. Lang, Jennifer Aniston, Sheryl Crow, Shania Twain and Kylie Minogue
(Australian actress and pop singer) I often cyber with two girls, one I have
met, one I haven't. The one I met is a girl I knew in England. She went to the
same school but we didn't know we were attracted to each other until we met in a
chat-room and recognized each other. The other (the Traci) in my screen name, is
17 and lives in New York, USA. we met three years ago and we don't cyber as much
now, we just chat about things and it's great. What I would like to say is that
after my Mum died, I was sort of thrown into being the woman of the household
and I had to try to be more mature for my little sis who is 4 years younger than
me (nearly). My dad doesn't really like me dating. I've been out with a few boys
but they were just friends. As I write this, I realize that I have never
fantasized about them, even when I was going out with them. I am still
technically a virgin but my hymen is no longer there as I bought myself a
vibrator, which is pretty nice. Anyway, thanks again for a smashing site. hope
it gets bigger and bigger and better and better. If you feel you want to use any
part of my letter on your site I would be honored.
Geena
My name is Geena. I am 23 and have been masturbating for over three years. I
have been sexually active since I was 17 and never experienced an orgasm until I
finally spoke with a friend about masturbation and the techniques. I spent
almost a year trying different styles and tools, but was unable to orgasm.
Finally, I tried vaginal penetration and anal penetration at the same time and
it worked really well. I lie on my back on the floor and insert a slender,
lubricated vibrator into my rectum and turn it on low. I then rub my clitoris in
a back and forth motion and increase the power on the vibrator as I grow closer
and closer to orgasm. By the time I am cumming, I will have the vibrator on
high. This has given me the most intense and longest lasting orgasms. I would
recommend this technique to any one who has trouble masturbating to orgasm.
Anonymous
I'm 23 and have been masturbating since early hood. It took me a long time
to discover I had a clitoris. I usually would just rub the outer lips of my
vagina until I climaxed. Since my late teens, however, I've started touching my
clitoris, with my left index finger, sort of tickling it very fast. That is
great, especially because I suck my thumb while doing it, and fantasize about
fellatio. But lately it has gotten harder and harder to orgasm. It takes me
fifteen to twenty minutes of continual stimulation to get there. I've tried
vibrators, the round kind that you lay against the clit, rather than the
penetrating ones but I don't like the numbed-clit feeling I get. I love it when
my lover touches my G-spot, but I don't know how to reach it by myself. And
since I usually lay on my back while masturbating it's hard to insert fingers
into my vagina. Any suggestions? I'm tired of being dependent on "him" to get
off.
Keep in mind your brain is your largest sexual organ and it needs stimulation
too. The mental stimulation of sucking on your thumb and thinking about fellatio
may not be sufficient today even though it once was. You may need to find a
different form of mental stimulation. This could be simply sucking on a dildo
that looks just like a penis, or finding some erotic pictures to look at, an
adult video, or erotic stories to read. Reaching orgasm in fifteen to twenty
minutes is not all that long, even if it is not as quick as before. Look at it
from the standpoint of “making-love” to yourself versus just as “masturbation."
Try to make yourself feel good, do not try to have an orgasm. Being goal
orientated may make things worse, not better. Do not expect nor try to have an
orgasm every time. Relax and enjoy yourself. If it does not feel good, you will
not have an orgasm. Pressing a strong vibrator, like the wand shaped one you
mention can cause some numbness if you press it directly against your clitoris,
especially if you press too hard. Place a small folded towel between your vulva
and the vibrator or leave your pants and underwear on. Do not put the vibrator
directly against your clitoris, place it to one side against your outer labia.
Do not try to have an orgasm quickly, build up to it slowly. If you feel you
need intense physical stimulation it could be a sign that you actually need more
mental stimulation. As mentioned in the section on Female Ejaculation it can be
a bit difficult for a woman to stimulate her own G-spot during masturbation.
Women who do, use many different methods and sexual aides, but they usually
insert an object other than their fingers into their vagina. Your fingers simply
are not long enough. We make some recommendations as to suitable sex toys to try
on the page linked to above. I recently saw an ingenious dildo used in a video
about Female Ejaculation that was made of clear acrylic and shaped like an “S”.
I have found one like this called the “Crystal Wand” and is sold by many adult
stores. Check out the stores linked to on the Links page. It is expensive at $50
US. A visit to your local produce isle may result in the discovery of suitable
objects at a lot cheaper price. ;-)
Jenna
I'm 14 and I masturbate just about every day. I lay on my back, with nothing on
below my waist. I start to rub my breasts and fantasize about my boyfriend going
down on me. Then I move down with my right hand and rub my clit. I rub hard and
tighten all of my muscles until I orgasm. I usually hold my breath, but I'm
trying to do it without having to hold my breath. Does anyone have any
suggestions on doing this?? There is nothing wrong with masturbating as you do,
but it would be beneficial to explore other methods. You need to slow down and
explore your body. You are trying too hard to reach orgasm. As pleasurable as
orgasm is, it can be even more enjoyable to see how long you can go without
reaching orgasm. You want to try and stay relaxed. Gently caress your entire
body, not just your breasts and vulva. Trying breathing deeply, panting, versus
just holding your breath. Try masturbating while sitting, standing, or leaning
against a wall. Try rhythmically rubbing your vulva, bare or clothed against
furniture, pillows, or stuffed animals. Explore water spray in the shower or
tub. Keep your mind entertained, build on your current sexual fantasy involving
your boyfriend. Read through the suggestions on this website. You are young so
take your time and explore. Do not take it too seriously, just have fun.
Jodie
I am 17 years old and have been masturbating since I was about 12. I usually lie
down on my bed (when my parents are asleep) and after reading a hot story or
looking at some pictures I begin to rub my clit and pinch my tits to a frenzy,
while thinking sexy thoughts about women licking me... until I'm so wet I can't
take it anymore. Then, I have this brush, the handle is large, metal, smooth,
and cylindrically shaped, I insert the handle inside myself and slide it in and
out. It feels great! Then I have to cum before I orgasm. I usually use the brush
and then as soon as I can't come anymore I begin to rub my clit at the same time
until I explode! It's the best feeling in the world, takes away so much stress
and no guy has ever been able to do that to me!!! Jodie’s clarification of what
she means by "cum" versus "orgasm." I don't know if it's normal but sometimes
when I masturbate I cum (female ejaculation) and then I have a really intense
rush all over my body. Sometimes they happen together and sometimes not so I
call the rush an 'orgasm' and the ejaculation 'cumming'. I don't know if that's
normal or if I got the meanings wrong but it feels good anyway. Jodie’s use of
her hairbrush as a dildo is likely stimulating her G-spot, this may account for
her orgasms that are accompanied by ejaculation. Her clitoral stimulation
appears to result in a different type or experience of orgasm. This is normal.
How women experience orgasm, and the types they have is a very individual thing.
As I explained to Jodie, it can be real difficult to describe our physical
sensations. This is especially true of female sexuality since there is not a lot
of open discussion of the topic or a large vocabulary to choose from. There is
also no correct or normal way to enjoy sexual pleasure. It is all normal if we
enjoy it.
Anonymous
This is to Helen, the 65 year old divorcée. I too am older...58 to be
exact...and I feel the same way. I knew nothing about sex, stimulation or
orgasms when I was young, and like you it wasn't till the 60's that I learned
about my body and the pleasures of masturbation. I frequently masturbate now....
because no man has yet to make me cum. I also attribute that to the fact that I
have never really enjoyed being with a man...and only realized two years ago I
am a lesbian. My usual method is start either by reading something very erotic,
or just fantasizing about what I'd like to be doing to another womyn. I play
with my breasts and rub my clit...and using pocket rocket vibrator inside me..
and a egg-like vibrator on my clit.. It is very intense...but there are times
its just nice to play without reaching a climax.
Anonymous
I am a 26-year-old mother of 2 and have found an excellent way to masturbate. I
use the showerhead and pulse water directly on my clit. I fantasize about all
kinds of things, like my husband going down on me, or another woman grinding her
vulva against mine. It is so awesome and the orgasms is mind numbing.
Anonymous
I love to masturbate!!!! I've been masturbating since I was about 5 yrs. old. I
used to love to touch other girls and for them to touch me when I was a little
girl. I don't do it now cause I can't find any of my girlfriends to do this with
me. What I used to do when I was younger was I would get my Teddy Bear turn him
up side down so that his neck would be between my legs. I would pull him up by
his legs but still hold him tight between my legs and I would rub and hump on it
until I reached orgasm. Now I use a few different methods. I lie down on my back
in the tub while the faucet is going full blast on my clit and I put the water
hotter for it to become more intense or until I come or I lie down on my stomach
with a pillow between my legs and hump on it till I reach orgasm or I get this
stuffed animal that I have that vibrates and I lay down on my back while its
pressed on my clit and I come. Either way is really good! I always fantasize too
I find that really important!!!!!
Dawn
It was interesting to learn that many women fantasize about other women during
masturbation. My two main fantasies are of a woman, or of two men. My friend
showed me how to masturbate when we were around ten years old. She placed a
pillow under her and "humped" it. That is the only way I have been able to
climax. I sometimes use a vibrator and move on top of a firm pillow with the
vibrator inside me. I would love to be able to climax lying on my back and using
my fingers, but so far it just hasn't worked for me. My husband doesn't know I
do this. He likes to watch me masturbate sometimes, but I fake it and do it like
"they do in the porn movies." I usually masturbate four or more times a week
when my husband is sleeping or when I am home alone.
Nikki
Hi I'm Nikki and I'm from England, I found your website by chance and I'm glad
that I did. I'm 17 and I love to masturbate. I've been doing it ever since I was
around 4, and then I didn't know what it was but it 'tickled' so I kept on doing
it. I haven't told anyone because I don't want my friends to get the wrong idea.
I don't know if I'm a lesbian or not but what I do know is that I love to look
at lesbian porn, whether its pictures or films. The ways I do it are either
lying on my back with my legs spread out and rubbing my clit up and down rapidly
with my middle finger, or I lie on my stomach doing the same but with my legs
bent at the knee and open. While doing this I fiddle with my tits and pretend
that someone (usually a woman) is licking me or doing it to me. I've had many
boyfriends; they can't give me such a thrill, even when we're having sex. I
don't like dildos, but I love vibrators, but I must be the only woman on the
planet that uses a vibrator on my clit. If I don't have access to a vibrator
then I take the head off my electric toothbrush and use that. I've kissed a
couple girls and played with many girls sexually, but only above the waist.
While I'd much rather have sex with a girl, I like guys to so I think that I'm
definitely bisexual. The greatest thrill for me though is doing it on the stairs
right in front of my front door, so then I have a chance of getting caught. I
read the stories on here and I will masturbate cause I can feel my clit
throbbing for my finger. I asked Nikki if girls in England had easy access to
erotic material and this is what she had to say: Thank-you for showing my
'story' on the website, I'm on there frequently. I get some pictures off the net
but most of the time I have to 'borrow' stuff from my brother. There is a lot of
stuff on TV though, thanks for replying to my e-mail, its nice to know that you
read them. I really love the website, its helped me a lot.
Anonymous
I wanted to share my experiences with masturbation....... I too am like some of
the others in that I can only reach orgasm when I am lying on my stomach with
something pressing against my clitoris. I have just recently bought a vibrator
and that works wonders..... but only in the one position. I get nothing out of
laying on my back......is there something wrong there?
I am 34 years old and surprisingly still a virgin.....(I have very high morals
and will not have sex before marriage.) ... after reading this website I
realized that it is ok to masturbate. It is actually a very needed time for me
and I love the fact that so many women do it. I do get off just watching some
shows, reading juicy books, and thinking about my married friends doing
it........ I just wish I could do it in other positions.... any ideas would be
greatly appreciated!!
Eli
I love to fantasize when I masturbate...I have been masturbating since I was a
teen...I would look at a book with pictures...usually naked men...I love oral
sex...so I just imagine someone's tongue against my clit as I slowly finger my
pussy...I love to start slow and barely touch my sensitive button...usually slow
circles against the side...one side is more sensitive... I love to spread my
lips just enough to feel my clit get swollen then as I’m about to cum I slowly
insert one maybe two as I cum.......I imagine a hard cock inside me...usually
making me shiver...OMG....its so awesome....
Methods of Masturbation
Indirect Clitoral Stimulation: "To masturbate, fantasizing, or getting
into an aroused state mentally is important. Also, for me, being alone is
important. I use the tips of my fingers for actual stimulation, but it's better
to start with patting motions or light rubbing motions over the general area. As
excitement increases I began stroking above the clitoris and finally reached a
climax with a rapid, jerky circular motion over the clitoral hood. Usually my
legs are apart, and occasionally I also stimulate my nipples with the other
hand." "If I'm in a hurry (pressed for time), I use the vibrator on the base of
the clitoris, with my legs open. But usually I use my fingers rubbing around the
base of my clitoris, and when I'm near orgasm, I move my fingers to a circular
motion on top of my clitoris. My legs are always apart, and I alternate hands
because one gets tired. My other hand will caress my breasts or just rest. And I
move my body a lot when I have the orgasm." "Wow! What a question! Usually I lie
on my back, my legs apart. I almost always have my panties on, as rubbing the
clitoris itself directly is just annoying. I use one hand, two fingers together,
rubbing up and down in short strokes right over my clitoris. As I get closer to
climax, my legs tend to spread apart and my pelvis tilts up more. I don't move
around too much, but sometimes during climax I roll from side to side." "I use
my hands and my imagination, and have probably tried every imaginable position
and motion - the basic simulation remains the same. I use my finger to stimulate
the clitoris, sometimes inserting another finger into my vagina at the same
time. I touch only my genital area when I masturbate, because I am not
stimulated by touching my body in general, as I am if my partner touches me all
over." "I stimulate the clitoris on either side with my legs apart, and do not
move any other part of my body. It is as though I allow myself very efficient
masturbation without guilt because anything else (touching myself all over,
etc.) would be sick."
"When I masturbate I simply think locally stimulating thoughts, then a brief
touch of fingers and it's over. Ha! Sneaky, isn't it!" "I use a simple
battery-operated vibrator. I usually apply it to the right side of my clitoris,
using a slight circular motion. I start with my legs apart, but they usually
come together involuntarily. I really think what goes on in my mind (just who I
am fantasizing I am with) is more important than the mechanical aspects."
Direct Clitoral Stimulation: "I use my third finger, moistened, to stroke and
rub on and around my clitoris. My other hand pulls back the lips, keeping a
gentle tension on the clitoral area. I alternate the rapid clitoral rubbing with
a slower rub of the vaginal entrance. (Actually, 'rub' is hardly the right word,
since it is a very light touch until just before orgasm, by which time I am very
wet.) My legs are wide apart, my knees up-not much torso motion until orgasm,
when there are strong spasms in my torso and pelvis" "I masturbate with one hand
only - mostly around the head of my clitoris, then gradually switching onto the
head - always with a rubbing, back and forth motion. My other hand helps to hold
the skin so firm contact can be gained. I alternately have my legs together and
apart." "I lie on my back with my legs together tightly. I use my left hand to
pull the top of my genitals tight and apart so I can use my right hand to stroke
my clitoris. I use a circular motion starting slow with a light pressure, and
then increase the pressure until I start to come. The I slow down according to
the sensation I wish until the orgasm is completed. If I want to come again I
start over." "I masturbate with an electric toothbrush. I put a dampened
washcloth over the toothbrush and lubricate my clitoris with lotion. I lie on my
back with my legs spread. With my left hand, I spread the labia to expose the
clitoris, and I hold the vibrator with my right hand and gently press it on my
clitoris. Sometimes I move it up and down, sometimes I leave it in one spot,
depending on what feels good. But I never really get excited until I start
fantasizing. I do not move my hips. The action is all with the hand/vibrator and
my clitoris." "I use my fingers only. My left hand holds the outer lips of my
vagina open, and my right forefinger and second finger rubs the right side of my
clitoris. Sometimes I rub up and down, but usually I rub in slow circular
motions. My legs are closed, strained and straight out. Sometimes I will do this
lying on my stomach, but not usually. It's a lot harder - I usually do that
after I've masturbated a few times and I'm still frustrated. I don't move very
much, in contrast with having orgasm with a partner, and I also make much less
noise."
Clitoral Stimulation and Occasional Vaginal Penetration: "I usually masturbate
by gentle stroking of the clitoral region, not the clitoris directly, but on the
skin above and around it; then I place the fingers around the clitoris and move
them back and forth rhythmically and with a bit of pressure. Thus, to achieve
orgasm, pressure is one factor, rhythmic movement another, and protection of the
clitoris from direct stimulation is another. This last one is achieved by using
the surrounding skin to stimulate the clitoris. Finally, tightening my asshole
and concentrating on having an orgasm helps bring it on. Sometimes I stick my
finger in my vagina as this seems to stabilize the clitoris and is a bit
exciting. My legs are apart. I don't move very much."
"I usually start out rubbing my clitoris on the side of it, with my finger.
Sometimes I use a mirror and watch - I used to stand up in front of a large
mirror. Then, usually because my finger doesn't really turn me on much, I get
out the vibrator. Sometimes I read pornography, sometimes I fantasize. Sometimes
I get out the girl oil and rub my breasts and stomach. I move the vibrator up
and down along the slit between my legs. One leg is usually with the knee in the
air, the other, opened, on the bed. I move my lower body up to meet the downward
motion of the vibrator. Sometimes I lick my fingers and wet my tit, and just
manipulate it, shake it around. Sometimes is tick the vibrator in and out of my
vagina, like screwing" "My earliest masturbation was with tub water, and later
with my hand, which is what I still do. I use the middle finger of my right hand
in vigorous up and down motions which speed me up even more toward climax.
Sometimes I put a finger deep inside my vagina with my thumb maintaining
clitoral contact. Recently, since reading the literature, I have tried
contracting my vaginal muscles, which does seem to enhance the act. Sometimes I
will thrust my whole body up, moving with my feet under my behind, ending up
with my chest and torso and sexual area pushing up and facing the sky. My
greatest release is with my legs pushed way apart to give the sensation of the
greatest opening. I once tried a cucumber, and also a vibrator, but that gave me
the feeling I was out of myself a little - not just me, that is."
Clitoral Stimulation and Vaginal Penetration Always: "I put one finger on my
clitoris and with the other I move a bottle in and out of my vagina (a plastic
bottle). I have my legs apart at first until I orgasm, and then I put them
together. First I rub my clitoris and then insert the bottle. When I come I
close my legs with the bottle in me as far as it will go." "I use my fingers
first to penetrate my vagina, for purposes of enlarging the sensation in the
general area, but then for orgasm I lightly and then more firmly rub my clitoris
in a circular or up and down motions. With my other hand (left hand0, I'm
generally turning the pages of the pornography book I'm reading. Yes, it's
awkward. Legs apart." "I fantasize first until I am lubricated. Often I tease
myself and hold off touching until I am quite aroused. Sometimes I rub my whole
body on the bed, lying on my stomach, and occasionally come that way, but
usually I am on my back. First I caress the outer labia, then around the
clitoris, using a circular motion, then I insert a finger in my vagina, while
laying on my back or side, and move with it. I can come very quickly if my legs
are together, but there is a better orgasm when my legs are apart and I work
harder for it" "I begin with manual stimulation of my clitoris. Then
simultaneous stimulation of both clitoris and vagina,. Sometimes I use the
finger/fingers (first and second or just second) of the other hand for vaginal
stimulation. Sometimes I use an object - usually the nicely rounded, smooth
handle of my hairbrush (no spiked dildoes for this me, thank you) for vaginal
stimulation. I am defensive about mentioning that I use something other than my
hand. Among all my associates there seems to be an unspoken taboo against all
such 'unnatural' things. I have no object fetishes. I am not into hurting
myself. It's just easier - it's hard to reach inside one's own vagina. My wrist
gets tired, especially if I'm slow in coming. Also I guess I find needing
vaginal stimulation is also unfashionable and I'm somewhat sensitive about that
too."
Clitoral Stimulation with Vaginal Penetration at Orgasm: "When I was a , I
would masturbate by holding both hands between my legs very tightly and gently
bouncing my whole body. Now I usually use my fingers to rub the whole genital
area in a circular movement. The I usually put one or two fingers inside my
vagina before orgasm to feel the contractions."
"Just after I climax I often put a few fingers just inside the mouth of my
vagina to feel the contractions - not just to see if they happen; it is very
satisfying sexually."
Palm Over Clitoris, Fingers Inside Vagina: "I hold my hand palm flat on the
clitoral area, and fingers inserted in my vagina about one inch or so, and just
massage gently." "I begin stroking the vaginal opening, then insert two fingers
in my vagina and stimulate my clitoris with the palm of my hand with very rapid
patting motions. My legs are together." "I use one hand and clutch the mons,
vibrate my hand over it until I get a warm feeling, then open my labia with a
finger, and make it wet up and down, then insert a finger into my vagina and
move it up and down very fast while the palm vibrates the mons. My legs are wide
apart." "I caress my nipples to get started, and look at pornography. Then I
gently massage my mound until I am generally aroused, then insert my fingers
into the vagina and at the same time rub my clitoris with my palm. Sometimes I
suck on a rubber penis."
Clitoral Stimulation and Anal Penetration: "Upon thinking certain sexy thoughts
my blood pressure feels like it's increasing, my heartbeat instantly becomes
quick and hard. My clitoris tickles and within a few seconds my vagina gets
slippery. I rub my clitoris with my left index finger. I penetrate my vagina
and/or rectum with the index and/or middle finger of my right hand and move them
in and out at whatever speed I wish. My genitals reach two or three stages of
tickling intensity - each tickling more than the one before. I rub my clitoris
in a back and forth motion. Sometimes I use household items which have the shape
of a penis, for penetration." "I masturbate in a darkened room. I sometimes read
erotic literature, especially anal-oriented. I stimulate myself with lubricated
fingers or a vaginal foam applicator or a douche or enema tip. I usually make
circular motions on my pubic area with one hand and touch my anus with the other
hand, sometimes inserting my finger or an object into my rectum. It does not
matter if my legs are together or apart. I move very little." "Sometimes I use
my fingers on my clitoris with one inside my vagina, one on the anal area, or
just on the clitoris. Usually I use one of two sizes of vibrators - a small one
for my anus and a large for my vagina. One hand is used for the clitoris, the
other holds the two vibrators in place. Legs are usually apart. Circular
motions."
Clitoral and Vulvar Stimulation: "Dig this. I use the side of my electric
woman's razor to masturbate. I rub up and down and sideways and usually use the
other hand to stimulate the rim of my vagina meanwhile." "I use my fingers
primarily. I begin by softly caressing my body and breasts, and genital organs.
Sometimes I use two hands on my genitals, but not always. I try to wait until I
feel moist before touching myself, because if I am not moist I usually have
difficulty in achieving orgasm. So I rub and stroke my external organs, gently,
and raise my legs into the air (wide apart) and then rub a little more
vigorously - which leads to orgasm or orgasms. It seems necessary to raise my
legs or I don't come. I often wonder if other women are the same."
Clitoral Stimulation while laying on stomach: "I use my forefinger. I lie on my
stomach and hug a pillow with my other hand. I use a circular and up-and-down
motion on my clitoris and usually keep my legs a little apart, but as I get
closer to orgasm, I bring them tight together. Sometimes I move a lot and other
times just a little." "I masturbate mainly on my stomach and use my right hand
to stimulate my clitoris in a hard up-and-down movement, using my middle finger,
index, and ring fingers. My left hand fondles my breasts. I move a lot in a
rotating motion and up and down. I mmmmm a lot and say 'fuck'. I keep my legs
open in the beginning and as I feel myself coming to an orgasm I close my legs
and pull my body up off the floor, bed, whatever. Sometimes I masturbate
standing up and use the same motion and move quite a bit. Occasionally I
masturbate on my back and find it hard to reach orgasm that way."
"When masturbating, I lie on my stomach with my legs slightly apart, using both
hands, the knuckles of the right hand providing direct pressure to the mons,
with the left hand adding more pressure to the right hand. The motion of a
moderately rapid front-to-back movement provides the clitoral friction I need."
"Sequence: I put a towel on the bed, put the vibrator on the towel with the
pulsator pointed up (the pulsator has a rubber cup of about 1 inch in diameter).
I usually wet the pulsator before starting. Then I lie completely quiet on my
stomach with my arms and legs making a wide V, with the pulsator working the
mons area. I don't use my hands until orgasm approaches, when I move the
vibrator slightly with the left hand so that it is at exactly the right place.
Just before orgasm, my hands and neck become rigid and my hands wise into the
air a bit just before I move my left one to manipulate the vibrator at the
critical time." "I masturbate on my stomach with my right hand between my legs
and gently and circularly massage my clitoris. I rarely touch my breasts or the
rest of my body because I've found that physically that does little for me."
Laying on stomach with Occasional Vaginal Penetration: "I masturbate on my
stomach with my legs together, pressing on my clitoris with the fingers of both
hands (index and middle fingers), one on top of the other. Sometimes I fondle my
breasts or buttocks with one hand, or insert my fingers into my vagina, but not
usually. I move much less than in intercourse."
"I am on my stomach lying with a pillow between my legs, either rubbing against
the pillow or also using my fingers. My body is rigid and stiff as I rub my
clitoris in a circular motion. My other hand is on my nipple, squeezing it, and
sometimes I have a vibrator in either my vagina or ass. Legs vary."
Laying on Stomach with Vaginal Penetration: "I lie on my stomach with my legs as
far apart as possible and put about three pillows under me to further arch my
back. I massage my body at the genital region and insert the middle finger of
one hand up my vagina and press my other hand hard against it , at the region of
my clitoris. This way I can strongly stimulate both my clitoris and cervix
(which is often sensitive but not as much as the clitoris). My breath becomes
short and gasping and my body starts pulsating and contracting violently, as my
body comes down on the finger and the hand behind it. I have tried using two or
three fingers, but this had the disadvantages that then it doesn't extend up as
far as one finger." "I use my hands beginning with a general overall rubbing of
myself to warm my hands and my body. Then I move to my crotch and slowly apply
pressure with the tips of all four fingers, Then I turn onto my stomach. I begin
to use a circular motion with two fingers on my clitoris and occasionally an up
and down motion with my clitoris between my fingers. With my right hand I check
to see if my vagina is wet, and fantasize. I continue to stimulate my clitoris
with my left hand and then insert two fingers into my vagina. I love the folds
and crevasses. It is amazing to feel the inside of oneself. I also sometimes
stimulate the opening of the urethra, but that can be painful. My legs are
usually closed, but sometimes open. If I haven't orgasmed by then, then I flex
all my muscles in my legs and ass, and sometimes begin to move my whole body up
and down, or maybe just move my hands. I often enjoy having my ass out from
under the covers - cool air stimulates it or perhaps it's a desire to be
exposed, I really can't say. Anyhow, turning on my stomach really improves my
ability to reach my fingers deep into my vagina."
Clitoral/Vulvar Stimulation while Laying on Stomach: "On my stomach with both
hands (one over the other) cupping my outer genital area, lips remaining closed.
I gently squeeze the area with a finger pushing against the back curve of the
lips and the palm of my hand pushing pressure on the front and the pubic bone.
Legs together. I have been doing this every day since I was for or five. When my
partner joins me he simply lies on my back and helps me squeeze." "I use the
curved plastic back, not the pad, of a small vibrator. I prefer this because I
very seldom have long periods of time alone to use the manual methods, which I
find to slow and not as interesting and more fatiguing. I kind of hold the
vibrator more or less steady under me as I lie face down, and move my body on
and around it. I use it pretty exclusively against my clitoris and vaginal lips.
I like my legs together. That way, with my ankles crossed, I can use my legs to
control the amount of contact with the vibrator. Sometimes I move a great deal,
sometimes very little. The more aroused, the more movement." "I lie on my
stomach with a pillow between my legs starting at my waist and kinda bunched up
in the middle. My hands are under the pillow just under the clitoral region, and
I hump the pillow rhythmically. Then I put my vibrator just above my clitoris,
and while it remains stationary, I rub against it for a few moments, until I am
so gluttonous I have to turn it on, at which time my left hand steadies it or
plays with my clitoris or my vaginal area. Anyway its mere presence is erotic.
It is important that my right hand keep it from vibrating too much (the reason
for the pillow). Sometimes the vibrator points toward the left, sometimes toward
the anus. My legs are tight together, and I fantasize. Sometimes I tap the
muffled vibrator in a special way."
Clitoral/Vulvar Stimulation while Laying on Stomach with Penetration: "I place
my vibrator on my clitoris and labia minora and vaginal entrance, plus sometimes
a candle in my vagina. Legs together is easier, especially with ankles crossed
(it makes muscular tension greater and satisfies a reflex desire to press my
knees together). I used to touch my breasts and stomach, but it seemed
redundant. And I used to move my hands more than me, now I move me more."
Thrusting into a Pillow or other Soft Object: "When I masturbate, I usually lie
face down on the bed with some cloth, like a blanket or spread, pulled together
so there is a mound I rub back and forth on." "I lie on my stomach with some
material pulled firmly between my thighs and pressing against my entire mons
area, then bounce gently until orgasm. "Yes I enjoy masturbation. I have
masturbated since girlhood and don't see any reason to stop ever. However, I
prefer sex with a partner because I like company. I always have an orgasm and
usually several of them, depending on the mood I'm in. I don't masturbate like
anybody else I ever heard of. I make a clump in the bedding about the size of a
fist (I used to use the head of my poor teddy bear, but since I became to old to
sleep with a teddy bear, a wad of the sheets has to suffice) and then lie on my
stomach on top of it so that it exerts pressure on my clitoris. I then move my
hips in a circular motion until I climax - very simple. it works with legs apart
or together - either one, although when I am in a particularly frenzied state,
together sometimes feels better. I usually end up sort of with my weight on my
knees and elbows, so I can't do to much with my hands." "I cross my legs, thrust
my pelvis against a soft object (a pillow is best) and fantasize. This is the
tried and true way. I do enjoy touching myself, but it's just not as good as
this. I really move very little; only when ready for orgasm do I get into any
real action." "Masturbation: I usually 'hump' a pillow or a rolled-up robe or
even a laundry bag - I ride it like a horse, pressing down and easing up
repeatedly - pressing harder and harder. With or without cloths on."
Thrusting into a Pillow or other Soft Object with Vaginal Penetration:
"Lying on my stomach with something small (like a Tampax) in my vagina and a
pillow clamped between my legs, I move up and down slowly, then faster and
harder. The sequence is like this - I insert the object, roll over on the
pillow, then move rhythmically to orgasm."
Thrusting Against an Object while Suspended: "I stand on a chair with a
protruding but low wing back and rub first against it, then raise myself so I am
above it, and stroke downward. This method allows much freedom of movement for
my body, which I like. I first learned it as a while playing on a chair my
mother had." "I draw myself up slowly against a bathroom sink, and press my mons
against it very hard. The sink is stimulating because it is cold. Sometimes I
revolve my legs to press harder, and sometimes 'flap' them to vibrate the
vulva." "I usually suspend myself against a piece of furniture and rub myself
against it in an up and down, slow, circular motion. I never heard of it being
done like this before and I don't know where I picked it up, but at an early age
it gave me a quick orgasm, or several. it's a good way, only it gives you
calluses on the palms of your hands."
Crossing Legs and Tightening Thigh and Pelvic Muscles: "I lie on my back,
with my legs together, and move quite a bit until right before I come; then I am
pretty rigid, squeezing my vagina on the inside, moving slowly. But it's the
clitoral stimulation and squeezing inside that makes me come. I squeeze the
whole pelvic area that way and the cheeks of my ass are very tight." "I
masturbate by rubbing my thighs together, usually lying down, but it can be done
sitting up ( in an office, on a bus, etc. ). I rub them rhythmically, putting
subtle pressure on the clitoris. The tension gradually builds to an orgasm." "I
lie flat on the bed, lock my ankles together, rhythmically squeezing my thighs
together, fantasize and occasionally touch my nipples if I have difficulty
reaching orgasm by thigh-squeezing alone." "I cross my legs twice - that is,
cross them and tuck an ankle around the other leg, which creates a pressure on
the clitoral area. I never use my hands or touch myself - don't have to. I
squeeze my legs until I achieve orgasm, moving only slightly. I have very easy
orgasms." "I lie down ( mostly when I bathe ) and cross my legs; I caress my
breasts and lightly bounce up and down as the stimulation builds. I keep
squeezing my breasts and then I have an orgasm."
"Initially, I get stimulated either from the outside, or tell myself stories or
I fantasize, then I lie down and put my right arm through my crotch with my
wrist or lower arm on my labia and clitoris ( I can be either clothed or naked )
and my hand or my ankle or calf, and cloths my thighs on my arm. My left hand
may support me ( if I lie on my side ), or else play with my nipples. I rock my
hips or pelvis for friction. Occasionally I use my fingers or hand for my labia,
on my clitoris, or up my vagina." "I bunch up a blanket or sheet, place part of
it between my legs, which are tightly pressed together, and then I rub the sheet
into and on my cunt, especially my clitoris, using no hands, just hip and leg
movements. I begin to fantasize a situation and come in minutes." "My legs are
crossed as I tightly squeeze some object which touches my clitoris and the
entrance to my vagina - like any slightly elongated object. Usually I keep it on
the outside of my underwear. I rarely use my hands, I just press my uppermost
thighs together against the labia. My masturbation is just basically the placing
of objects and rocking of my pelvic region, with pressure on my uppermost thighs
against the labia." "When I masturbate, I usually press my legs hard together (
or wind them around each other ) and use a towel, pulling it against my clitoris
rhythmically until I come." "I use a pillow or some other object that is firm
but soft. I hold it between my legs and rub it up and down or squeeze it with my
thighs. I can get stimulated somewhat by rubbing my fingers directly on my
genitals, but can't touch my clitoris, as it is too sensitive. In fact, I'm
better off wearing pants so I don't become too directly stimulated. My legs have
to be clasped on the pillow, they can't be apart. I move quite a lot but don't
need to therefore I prefer it out of the covers, with my ass and feet,
especially, exposed."
Water Massage: "I masturbate with shower water only. I aim it at my
clitoris, legs spread apart. Sometimes I hook up a hose and sit on the side of
the tub, and use a nice steady stream of water. Or I lie down on the tub, and
let the shower water strike my clitoris if it is hard enough." "I lie in the tub
on my back with a stream of very water on my vagina, mons, and clitoris. The
harder the pressure and hotter the water, the quicker the orgasm." "I remove the
head from my shower to allow a steady stream of water to come out. I open the
vaginal lips exposing my clitoris. The water can be slightly hot for more
stimulation, and hips can be moved slightly to tantalize and prolong the
enjoyment. I usually do it standing up. Lying down is more beautiful, but you
get your hair and face wet. This orgasm tops them all for me, and can be
multiple." "I masturbate with water, preferably a half-inch stream that is
arched so my butt does not stop the drain. My feet are braced on the wall about
two feet apart, and I am lying on my back." "Occasionally I bring myself to
orgasm in the bathtub. First I excite myself with fingers, then I let the water
on and get into an acrobatic position so my vagina is directly under the faucet.
I start with the water warm or cool and at a low pressure on my clitoris. When I
have gotten excited I run the water harder and lift myself closer to the water
and let it pound into my vagina and then I come and it's the most fantastic
feeling."
Vaginal Insertion Alone: "I usually masturbate with my finger and touch my
breasts with my other hand, but not always. Sometimes when I'm lying in the sun
in my swimming suit and I'll start to feel sexy, I end up going inside to
masturbate ( when I'm alone in the house ). I usually use a back and forth
movement in my vagina, or just hold my fingers there a while. My legs are quite
wide apart with my knees up near me. Sometimes I move a lot, depending on the
intensity of my feelings at the time."
The Secret to Great Sex
The secret to great sex is, knowing there is no secret. I hate to disappoint
everyone, but there is no single sexual philosophy or technique that will result
in great sex and powerful orgasms for every woman, or even the majority of
women. I realize this is contrary to what many claim and others believe.
The reason being, no two women are exactly alike in their sexual needs and
desires. Every woman is unique unto herself, physically and mentally. Each woman
must discover for herself what is right and best for her. No one can predict
with any degree of accuracy what will sexually satisfy a woman. To claim you can
is misleading and harmful to women. For a woman to believe that one such secret
exists unknowingly limits her sexual potential and greatly impedes her efforts
to discover sexual happiness.
Unfortunately, in the process of describing female sexuality you can
inadvertently define it. An incomplete description of female sexuality often
results in a narrow definition of what it is. If a person asks ten women to
describe their sexuality, and publishes these descriptions in a book, those who
read this book will often assume that these ten women have defined female
sexuality in its entirety. If the possibility of other forms of female sexuality
existed, additional women would have been included in the book, or so the reader
may believe. This can have a detrimental affect on the female reader who does
not see herself described within the pages of this book. She may feel there is
something wrong with her, which she needs to change. If her partner expects her
to be like these ten women, they too may assume something is wrong with her.
Books and magazines that are reported to contain the secrets to great sex often
have a very narrow view of what women want and enjoy sexually. This is because
the authors of these books and articles have been exposed to a very limited
number of women. Given the number of women on this planet, even a sampling of
one thousand women is minuscule. These books and magazines are not incorrect,
just incomplete. They each apply only to a small percentage of women. Combined
they still do not apply to all women.
Most books and magazine articles dealing with female sexuality should not be
used for a purpose other than the gathering of ideas. If you want to try
something new, or have not found something that works yet, they give you some
new ideas to try. You should never consider them the Holy Grail of sex, and
define your sexuality based on their content. If you try what they recommend and
it does not work, or you do not enjoy it, then move onto something else. Do not
judge yourself or your partner based on the contents of these books and
magazines.
One thing I try to make clear in my writings on this website is the diversity of
women. I do not profess to know the secrets to great sex for every woman. All I
can do is educate people as to varying needs of women, and the possible causes
for this diversity. I try to provide ideas and basic concepts without defining a
woman's sexuality; at least I hope I have done so.
As such, the contents of this website should not be used to define female
sexuality. It is just a small collection of information that will hopefully
allow men and women to experience greater sexual happiness, what ever that may
entail.
Size does matter
The size a woman desires or prefers is often dependent on her present situation
or the activity she is contemplating. If she is considering vaginal intercourse
for the first time any penis is probably going to look large and intimidating.
If a woman is contemplating anal intercourse she may make her decision based on
the size her partner's penis. If she wants to orally stimulate her partner she
may prefer a small penis because a large one either causes her to choke or makes
her jaw muscles ache. A woman's preference is therefore not necessarily set in
concrete.
Is there a physical bases for some women to prefer a large penis? The answer is
yes. This has little or nothing to do with the length of a penis, but with its
girth. A large penis is often large around besides being long. While men may
pride themselves on the length of their penis, its circumference is likely of
more importance to a woman. A woman's sensitive genital tissues are located
around the perimeter of the vagina. These sensitive genital tissues are her
clitoris, and its outlying structures, the urethra and urethral and perineal
sponges. Even a woman's G-Spot, if she has one, is located within a couple
inches of the vaginal orifice. The more pressure that is exerted on these
structures the more enjoyable intercourse MAY be for a woman. On the other hand,
pounding on a woman's cervix may not be pleasant at all for her and can be
painful for some women.
As a result of the desire to be filled, a vaginal ache, that many women
experience during sexual arousal, some do desire and enjoy the sensation of
having something large stretch and fill their vagina. The larger the object, the
more filled and satisfied they feel. This is why some women do choose to use
large dildos and engaging in vaginal fisting. As a result of experimentation and
experience some women find their orgasms are more intense when their vagina is
filled to capacity. They likely start out with a single finger or a small dildo
but find they do not fulfill their desire to be filled as well as something
larger. In these cases even the largest of penises is not large enough to
fulfill their needs.
Some women prefer a large penis for psychological reasons. Since a man with a
large penis is often seen as more manly, the woman who attracts his attention is
often seen as more womanly and desirable. A woman may perceive her position in
society is better if her partner is well endowed. She may feel she has bested
her peers. A woman may find the sight of a large penis visually stimulating as
well. Many women are fascinated with penises, not because they necessarily want
one, but because they do not have one of their own. Their fascination often has
nothing to do with size. Many women enjoy seeing and feeling their partner's
penis becoming erect in their hand or mouth. Some mothers of infant and young
boys love their son's little penis and like to look at and even touch it. (This
is likely the result of curiosity more than sexual desire. It may also be the
result of socialized admiration of the penis. In addition, she may not be able
to explore her adult male partner's genitals so thoroughly.) Some lesbians are
also fascinated with penises. They may not desire their partner to have a real
one, but some do seek out male partners to fulfill their curiosity. One must
keep in mind the brain is after all our largest sex organ.
Other women prefer a small penis. As mentioned above a large penis can cause a
woman to experience discomfort when performing fellatio. A woman may desire to
perform fellatio immensely but finds it is too taxing when her partner has an
averaged sized penis, let alone a large one. The physical discomfort outweighs
the emotional pleasure and benefit. Some women will only orally stimulate their
partner's penis when it is flaccid or in the process of becoming erect. A large
penis can also cause discomfort during anal and vaginal intercourse. A woman who
enjoys anal intercourse may prefer a small penis as it is easier for her to
accommodate within her body. Women who are afraid of losing some of their
vaginal muscle tone, commonly called becoming "loose" may not want a partner
with a large penis. As can be seen, larger is not always better.
Some argue that size does not matter. If this is the case, what happens to all
those giant sized dildos sold in adult novelty stores? Do adult mail order
businesses stock a product that does not sell? While some of these are bought as
gag gifts for soon to be married women, many likely get used for their intended
purpose. In Dickinson's book Atlas of Human Sex Anatomy there are illustrations
that depict old dildos that are up to three inches (7.6cm) in diameter. I think
simple curiosity compels many women to seek out objects larger than your average
sized penis. It may be the rumors of the increased pleasures that peak her
curiosity. For some it is the challenge of finding out if they can really insert
something so large into their vagina, a means of testing the limits of their
body. While it is curiosity that motivates them, pleasure is what keeps their
attention, at least for some women.
In the end does the size of a man's penis really matter to his partner? The
answer is no, at least for the vast majority of women. Most women do not choose
a partner based solely on the size of his penis. What you have to keep in mind
is, if women were only interested in the size of a man's penis, it would be less
taxing on them to just go out and buy, or create, a dildo of the size they
desired. Very few women place penis size on the top of their list when choosing
a partner, even those who prefer a large or small penis for physical or
psychological reasons.
Women's Sexual Experiences
Helen's Experiences
My fifth-grade class was among the first wave in this country to be exposed
to sex education. Some education it was! I'd had breasts for years, and I'd
suspected that all that stuff between my legs was good for something other than
riding a bicycle. My father was a nurse, so while our training on the nuts and
bolts of anatomy made sense ("That stuff down there is for making babies after
you're married, and here's what it looks like."), my peers had no idea what they
possessed "down there". My sex-ed teacher asked, "How many openings are 'down
there'? Hold up fingers." Everyone held up two but me. I felt like a freak, but
the teacher said, "She's right! There are three!." Every kid in the class looked
at me like I was the one idiot who had the weird anatomy. They recoiled from me
in the same way you might shrink back from a man you found had an extra nose
growing out of his abdomen.
When the teacher explained the fact that there was a "third hole" they'd never
found, all the girls looked positively repulsed. I understood from what my
parents told me and the films she had shown ("The male frogs squeezes the female
frog until her eggs come out and he squirts this stuff on them that makes them
into babies.") that that "stuff" down there had a purpose. Why anyone would use
it was beyond me. I'd been acquainted with the pleasurable aspects of my
anatomy, but why it could ever extend to a man eluded me. I knew I had a little
button down there that didn't have anything to do with babies. Why wasn't anyone
talking about that? One girl in my class asked about masturbation, and the
teacher said, "If a girl touches herself 'down there' she could become very
excited." And that was IT! I got excited watching the Richard Simmons show. It
didn't mean I wanted to marry the exercise guru! What was she talking about? I
got excited watching the dance number before the Oscars. I didn't think this had
anything to do with my "unmentionable". The idea that my "fun spot" and babies
had any connection was beyond me. I was desperately waiting for SOMEONE to tell
me I wasn't the only on who possessed one these things. I've talked to many
women of my so-called "enlightened generation" only to find that all of us at
one point stood over a hand mirror, looked down and screamed, "I'M
DEFORMED!!!!!!!" The shock of our own genital appearance was terrifying. As for
me, I lost my virginity to an overly-endowed boy on the seat of a pickup truck.
The poor boy didn't mean to, but he banged my 15-year-old head into the truck
door so hard I nearly passed out. I thought that the pain of first coitus would
go away, but it didn't. For years, I wondered why coitus burned like blowtorch.
Doctors told me I was crazy or not using the proper lubricant. I felt like a
freak! I ended up with a debilitating case of vestibulitis. Only surgery and
marriage to a very sensitive man could cure this painful condition. It is
through his and my concerted efforts that I'm able to fully participate in a
real sexual life with the give-and-take attendant in that relationship. It's
been a long road, but I'm a fully sexual being. Just how many young girls are we
going to sacrifice in our pursuit of the "perfect woman"? Why don't we just tell
them what they need to know, give them good reasons for waiting (i.e.: "That boy
just needs to put his seed in SOMETHING! It's biological..."), and help them as
they grow. I have an 8-year-old step-daughter. I'm pretty sure she understands
how babies are made, but I hope it will be up to me to let her know how women
enjoy a sexual life. I don't want one more girl to experience the pain and
disgust I went through.
Tiffany's G-Spot Experience
Last week, my boyfriend tried something new on me. He began touching my pussy,
then told me to turn over onto my stomach. I did so and he put two fingers
inside my vagina. Normally when he put his fingers inside when I'm laying on my
back it feels so wonderful, but he cannot get his fingers at such an angle that
I get the perfect friction on my G-Spot. With me on my stomach though, oh my
god, I was screaming and gasping for breath. He put his fingers in, and massaged
my G-spot, my pussy, and my butt. I had to bite the pillow to keep from
screaming loud enough for the neighbors to hear. If your lover and you ever want
to try something wonderful, do this! It lacks body-on-body closeness, but it
feels oh so good! Also make sure when they are inside you, their palm is facing
down towards the bed. Happy loving!
Anonymous - Age 31
When I was ten or eleven (I don't remember exactly when) I touched myself
between my legs and discovered my clitoris, a few months later I had found my g
spot. By the time I was thirteen, I was masturbating regularly every night and I
had seen my vulva with a hand mirror. I had power over my genitals, under my
command they swelled and throbbed giving me unspeakable pleasure for hours on
end. Indeed I could masturbate for hours on end, dreaming of pleasures that I
only read about in romance novels and my dad's porn stash.
I had been reading romance novels since I was 11, not Harlequin but the bodice
rippers. And I had been perusing my dad's porn stash since I was 7, he preferred
Hustler, High Society, and OUI with the occasional Penthouse thrown in for
variety. By the way, I did this on the sly. I lost my virginity with very little
pain and no soreness since my vagina was nice and flexible and my lover
considerate enough to lick my clit first. I read of other women's experiences
with first intercourse and I feel a bit sad for them. Since their pussies had
been basically "unused", they were like cars that had been sitting in a parking
garage for years. They described ripping and tearing, a pain that seared their
poor cunts and turned them off to sex. But a penis in my vagina felt smooth and
silky even the first time. During those years of fingering myself, I had
fantasies. Though I would never tell my friends I was fascinated with a penises
and wondered what one would feel like in my mouth. The first time my lover asked
me to (I was too shy to ask then), I took his cock in my mouth and gave him
head. Within minutes, I discovered that men love a roving tongue and the sure
way to make a man moan was to tickle that spot right underneath the head. I
attribute my sexual openness and enjoyment to over 20 years of masturbating.
Anonymous - Age 21
The first time I had an orgasm it was during intercourse at 16, with a patient,
experienced man eager to guide me toward a pleasurable view of sex. I had
touched myself before this, and experienced pleasure from it, but had a feeling
of taboo against further exploration, thinking that sexuality is something that
was shared, instead of a personal thing that can be mingled with someone else's.
In fact, despite the intense pleasure gained from experiencing orgasm with
intercourse, I didn't have my first solo orgasm for another year or two, and
regular masturbation soon followed, naturally. I just didn't think that most
women masturbated. Since then I have approached sex with an open mind, realizing
that a lot of "common knowledge" is straight myth. Such as men's vs. women's
capability of visual stimulation. I have started looking at porn regularly for
the last six months, which has resulted in faster stimulation and stronger
orgasms, as well as gaining insight into men's common sex mistakes (lack of
clitoral stimulation is evident in a huge amount of porn). I believe that some
encouragement of masturbation in ren would result in further development of
their unique physical preferences, and the resulting confidence in
self-knowledge will prompt the communication necessary with your partner to
ensure everybody's happiness.